OT-Father's Day

Snuck up on me again.....it's next Sunday.  Just putting the word out in case someone else forgot too.

I'm taking Mom and Dad to Jakes but am struggling for a gift idea.

What do you get a multi-millionaire father, who has everything, for Father's Day?  NOTHING.  (sad but true)  I call him, say Happy Father's Day, about 10 more words spoken from both of us, then he hands the phone to mom.  (again sad but true)  I have tried to have a much better relationship with him but there is only so many times you can serve the tennis ball and the other side don't hit it back before you just say SCREW IT I QUIT. Not trying to be so negative about Father's Day, but I did have to get that out.  I feel better now.

My family (immediate that is) is anti gift-they don't like figuring out what to get people and they'd rather not have the fuss.

I actually used to loathe Father's Day too-but for a different reason-I was a single parent and it was a nasty experience.  So now, if Father's Day rolls around, and I feel blue, I go buy myself a present-hell, I was both father and mother so I deserve one!

I feel bad for you, but I feel worse for your father-he's probably pretty lonely.  Trust me-NO one knows what they are doing when they have kids-and if he's a high achiever (and a man, sorry to rag on you guys) he probably hates the feeling of not knowing what to do-that's not the same as disliking you.

There, I saved you 10 years of therapy-I'm going to go buy myself a Father's Day present....LOL.

I totally agree with Hoodoowoman...you can't help but take it personal but it isn't your fault.  It's his problem and his loss also and one day he will tell you that...probably when he is much older.  Some people just don't have the insight and sensitivity that we have.  I have always felt blessed to have it and feel sorry for people who live life without that kind of connection with the ones they love.  One thing that helped me was to say "They did the best they could with what they had...emotionally, educationally, spiritually...in every way."  They just weren't as well equipped as us more sensitive types to show love and affection and attention.  Hope that helps you out Wolf.