People that have no idea.....

isn't it crazy how people stick their feet completely in their mouth without knowing it! the thing i try to remember is that the cute little person saying these things has no idea what health issues i might have, no idea how many times i have failed a diet, how many pounds i have lost only to gain them back.  all they see is - you're big, close your mouth and exercise and it will go away. this cute little person doesn't know that obesity may run in my family, the heart condition or diabetes that i will certainly be inflicted with is genetic, and that every doctor i have ever seen has already attempted to get me on a "diet and exercise" regime because they don't know that only 1-2% of those who are 100 lbs overweight will EVER be successful without WLS.  what kind of "easy" way out is 1-2%!!! so, because this cute little person has NO idea about any of these things, i smile and say, that my doctor and i have a plan that will help me be successful, even though it is the hardest thing, and possibly the most expensive thing, i have ever had to do.  i have a dietitian who i see faithfully to help me when i get bored or stuck.  i have a psychologist on call when the "evil" food decides to swim in my head and call my name on a regular basis.  i have a exercise physiologist to help me learn how to balance myself and exercise in a healthy way while my body changes so quickly i cannot keep my balance.  and i have a wonderful pair of angel surgeons who i handed my life to and they saved me so that i can live another day! and if that doesn't work, i just say - the easy way out is through that door over there....pointing away from me.  because in the end we don't have to answer to anyone but God and ourselves.  and if everyone else has an issue with that, tough cookies! 

Those are wonderful words of wisdom! Thank you and I will use your words of wisdom when the time comes! For now I am going to just ignore them because only myself and my family know how hard it has been.

If someone said to me " So you chose to take the easy way out, instead of eating right and exercising", I certainly wouldn't respond to them nicely. You have been given some very good advise. Most importantly, you are doing this for you, so don't dare worry about what some little skinny thing has to say. Best of luck to you on your WLS journey, Rita

The others have wonderful replies. My first thought was that I'd be tempted to answer her with a knuckle sandwich! ; ) (just kidding)  Joni, Ruth, and Cat59 had wonderful responses. I'll use them if I ever need them ... and I'll definitely be sitting on my hands. ; )    Shelly

I think I want to revise my snarky answer.  If this is not someone you know well enough to share with, I would say "How presumptious of you to comment and pass judgement on a personal medical decision" and if you can do it loudly with some righteous indignation, even better. 

I may teach that phrase to my new parrot....LOL.

I like that