I've lost my motivation!!

Now that it has come down to the wire, I've lost my motivation!  I finally have finances for surgery, the go ahead from my Dr. and the support of my family...but I've regained the 25lbs I've lost during the approval period and can't seem to get it together to lose it again.  What do I do?  I need to be down a total of 30 lbs for surgery and it just isn't happening.  My want to is gone....IS this common?  Is it just a fear reaction?  What do I do?.....................

Becky, I believe part if it is fear added to the feeling of "I'll never be able to eat this again".  It is not uncommon.  Just keep your eyes on the prize.  You are getting ready to make a major life change.  I even thought that maybe I don't need to have surgery, I'm losing on my own.  Then I remembered how I always gained it back with a couple of their friends.  I can't tell you how happy I am since my surgery.  I have energy and feel great.  Start replacing 1 or 2 meals with protein shakes.  I have some great recipes if you want to pm me.  Sending prayers and hugs that you find your "mojo" again! Happy Easter, Michelle

In the end, you HAVE to do what is best for you.  Maybe you were motivated before, because it seemed like such a long shot.  Now that there is one step left to take, it's more "in your face".  Since you have the 30 lbs to loose, take that time to start eating like you would have to, after surgery.  Don't make your decision for anyone else, but yourself. Only do what is best for you!!!! You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Sounds like fear to me.  One of my biggest fears was "oh, what if I'm the one  it doesn't work for, how embarrasing will THAT be." and another, deeper underlying conviction that "other people could be thin, but not me".

Not trying to psychoanalyze, just sharing two big fears I had.  But, when it's time, you get to the point where you say "so what, at least I'll try"....and then it will happen for you too!

I agree that it is probably nerves. It is so worth it to have the surgery done. Do what ever you have to to do it. I know if you are like me when my nerves are shot I want to eat. Instead get on here and chat with us.

Becky, I would do this set down and write a pro and con of why you want the surgery and after you finish that....ask yourself this basic question what was your reason in the first place for having the surgery/ why did u stop do the life style change.. and then cause I  believe in rolling over all stones...do You really want the surgery. Believe me I have had complications since my rny and I ask myself after the last one was the surgery worth it....and the answer is yes. I would rather die now from a complication then ever die from being obesed and not trying to do something about it. This decision is not one that should be taken lightly it is  life changing . ANd for a while you wont be able to eat the foods you have come to love. BUT in time you can..you can still have dessert it just has to be sugar free and fat free or as much as possible. You  can still have pizza just not the crust or the fatty meats. I have learned how to make tasty foods like I did before surgery just now my  ingredients are healthier.  Good luck to ya and just remember we are here for ya

Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement.  I really do think the major factor is fear of the unknown...During my thin days, before I had children, I wasn't a very nice person and I know that I am afraid I will be like that again.  I know that is irrational but the feelings are real.  My weight has been such protection for me..kept me insulated from interacting with the world and now I won't have it anymore and I don't know that to do or if I will even be able to handle life!  I am so very tired of being obese, not being able to get up from a sitting position, silently examining every piece of furniture before I sit down (want to be sure it will hold my weight!), unable to buy clothes in a store-mail order only, things like that.   But on the other hand, that is the only way I know how to live because I have been doing it for the past 20+ years!  CHANGE IS SCAREY!!!!I know I just have to put on my big girl panties and deal with it.  I think I will make a list of pros and cons of how my life is and how it will be.  I haven't given up, I think I've just been in limbo and gotten Lazy!  Anyway, it has helped me to vent a little and hear ya'lls take on the situation.  Thank you SO much, I really do feel better.

I wasn't a very nice person, when I was thin either. I had HUGE self esteem issues and I protected myself by being selfish and self-loathing at the same time. That was a concern for me too. However, I've been working to get myself emotionally healthy. I will continue to do that. We can work on the emotional pre and post op. So, by the time we get to where we are going......we'll still probably be working on the emotional....hahaha. Talk to the psychologist that your DR has you talk to. Most overweight people are hiding from something emotional. So, that person will have the experience you need.