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Thank you! I think they're pretty darn cute, too. 
I can't wait to see my mom next weekend and see for my own eyes how she's truely doing. It's been just a month shy of a year since I've seen her last and it's hard to wrap my mind around the fact that she's even had this stroke.
I didn't really want to tell my in-laws but when I don't tell them things they use it as an excuse and say I'm alienating THEM and use it against me. The day my husband stood up to his family and said that if they couldn't treat me with respect then he didn't need them in his life was the day I was finally able to say "I don't need you to like me". Though it would be nice if they did.
I guess I struggle with the stigma attached to this surgery, too. Part of me wishes I didn't have to tell anyone and I could just let people think I was never fat or that I lost it all without help. But I can't lose it without help. I've tried. I don't subscribe to the thinking that this is the "easy" way. I don't think there's anything easy about laying down on a table, letting someone knock you out and cut you open, and trusting they are going to help and not harm you. There's nothing easy about the liquid diet. There's nothing easy about going to a complete stranger and saying "I can't do it. Will you please help me?"
It's actually easier to put on that face everyday and say "I'm fine with how I look." or "big is beautiful" or pretend your feet don't hurt and your knees don't creak and you aren't afraid you're going to die every time you feel a twinge in your chest. It's easier to just try to ignore it all than to seek help. At least that's what I tell myself.
I did go ahead and tell the in-laws...in an e-mail. Hopefully they won't think it's open for discussion when we see them next weekend.
I can't wait to see my mom next weekend and see for my own eyes how she's truely doing. It's been just a month shy of a year since I've seen her last and it's hard to wrap my mind around the fact that she's even had this stroke.
I didn't really want to tell my in-laws but when I don't tell them things they use it as an excuse and say I'm alienating THEM and use it against me. The day my husband stood up to his family and said that if they couldn't treat me with respect then he didn't need them in his life was the day I was finally able to say "I don't need you to like me". Though it would be nice if they did.
I guess I struggle with the stigma attached to this surgery, too. Part of me wishes I didn't have to tell anyone and I could just let people think I was never fat or that I lost it all without help. But I can't lose it without help. I've tried. I don't subscribe to the thinking that this is the "easy" way. I don't think there's anything easy about laying down on a table, letting someone knock you out and cut you open, and trusting they are going to help and not harm you. There's nothing easy about the liquid diet. There's nothing easy about going to a complete stranger and saying "I can't do it. Will you please help me?"
It's actually easier to put on that face everyday and say "I'm fine with how I look." or "big is beautiful" or pretend your feet don't hurt and your knees don't creak and you aren't afraid you're going to die every time you feel a twinge in your chest. It's easier to just try to ignore it all than to seek help. At least that's what I tell myself.
I did go ahead and tell the in-laws...in an e-mail. Hopefully they won't think it's open for discussion when we see them next weekend. Beginning 265/surgery 255/goal 140/ low 122/ current 158!!!
Post RNY 12/6/07, Post Abdominiopasty/Hernia repair 3/4/09
My in-laws live here in town, but I don't see them or talk to them very often. We got together last weekend (2nd and 3rd) because dh's aunt from Chicago was in town... We had a nice visit.
They aren't rude to me or mean, but they aren't extremely nice either. They aren't like "family" they are more like aquaintences... It is actually kind of weird.
I'm sure they'll know about my surgery before it all goes down. I just don't know when and how they are going to find out. In fact, I have a cardiologist appt next Thursday at 8:05 a.m. I have to allow an hour to get there (I live an hour away from the doctors) and school for my 9 year old doesn't start until 8:50, dh will be out of town on business, so we are going to ask his mom to keep her overnight and get her to school the next day.
I know we are going to tell them that I have a dr's appt in Tulsa but as far as I'm concerned, we'll keep it at that. They don't need to know what kind of doctor I'm seeing or why...
Maybe I'll wait until I have my psych eval to tell them I'm seeing a PSYCH! ha ha... That'll really make them wonder about me! Oh, if only I could hear what they are thinking then! lol
As far as my family, I've told my mom, and all of my siblings. My sister has had the surgery herself almost 5 years ago. They are all cool with it. That's what matters most to me!
Oh, and my dad is deceased.
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