a more serious note
I felt like i had to share a story, today I had lunch with my good friend , she has been out of town since i started this whole process, and i had been very apprehensive about telling her , just knowing her reaction could be negative and i would have to respond to that . Luckily that was not the case though i could tell she was a little skeptical ,, she too is very overweight , but my intention was not to talk about, her, only my feelings . We talked everything through and we even cried together talking about being an overweight child and having to buy clothes in the "chubby" girls dept. I shared with her my feelings about the surgery and my goals , which are to be healthy and like the person i see in the mirror, she has known me through alot of things in my life and she let me just talk it through , it was wonderful, I am so BLESSED to have such supportive people around me and to have found all of you . this continues to be a very emotional journey , I am learning more and more each day.
Lu
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain. " 
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on 9/15/07 9:06 am
on 9/15/07 9:06 am
I am so happy that your friend was supportive. There are many reasons why friends are sometimes not supportive, and some an be worked through and some just can't.
I have had pretty big yo yo swings in weight and I'm never really quite prepared for the changes it brings in other people and in myself, both good and bad. My advice as an old fat lady is this-keep your eyes open to the emotions and changes and deal with them and accept them as they come. It really does help your weight loss and probably factors into successful maintenance.
Right now i get very emotional talking about it ,,and i am just going with it , i think it has been a long time coming , it is ok to cry , it is a BIG decision!! I always covered my feelings with humor and being a perfectionist ...I am just allowing myself to feel all of it right now ....I hope i am not rambling . but it helps me to write it out
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain. " 
It is wonderful that you have someone you can be so honest and open with. For me that person is my husband.
I am very glad I found OH. I have learned so much here as a pre-op. This has been such a important site to me. Everyday I learn something new here.
"I haven't failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don't work" ~Thomas Edison
That is the greatest feeling to know you are accepted. I am glad that your friend is going to support you! It makes all the difference in the world to have just that one special person! When I first started that person was my boy friend but now 3 months later I have found the my best supporter is myself and those that have gone on before me. My family and friends are thrilled with the lost but it seems my best cheerleaders are the post ops. They know the emotional rooler coaster that we are on and it helps to have that to lean on. Just remember we are here for you always.....even if you have the best looking doc!
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