Just Want to Tallk

It is Friday..... I have been reading all the posts about weight scales. No I don't have any at home...... Do you ever want things now??? Well...that is me. I want it to be a year from now. I want to lose all this want. I don't want to eat just soft foods right now. I want meat! LOL  Don't get me wrong, since my RNY I have been doing great....no major upsets. I am losing!!! I just wish that I could see the results like other people do. They tell me that they can see it, but why can't I? Is that wrong of me? I mean, I know that I am not a patient person by any means...but I would like to see a little results! I am currently measuring every Sat. I have lost inchs everywhere but still am not able to "see" the difference! Anyone ever had the same problem? I could use a boost! LOL  BTW----I am singing a song right now "You're so vain......"

You sound just like me! I don't really see the difference..you would think 42 plus pounds would kinda show more  but nope my body is just not showing me what I want to see.I would think that at 20 I would see something now at 42 plus I still don't see it. Except when I went and got new undies. But then I said its fluke  the undies were cut bigger.... What I have noticed is the energy...lots of it...sleep now is not turning over and over to get comfortable....my family when they call say I sound like the ole fiesty ornery self that I use to be....So maybe we have been big for so long that we still see us as big...it might have to take more weight before we actually say  WOWOIE i have lost weight! keep your chin up and this little phase will pass before you know it!

Sarah, As women, we are our worst enemies!!!!!!! I can't emphasize that enough. We are (and have been for a long time) in a routine where all we see in the mirror is the same self that has always been there.  We have to learn to break that cycle - and yes, it is a cycle. Here is something you and everyone else that reads this can do: Each and every day... Look in the mirror at yourself... AND... Find something new that has changed on you... It takes 21 days to make something a new habit... Not only are you looking for the new positive changes that are going on... You are also picking up a positive habit! We women are so negative with ourselves and we have to stop this cycle.  It passes on from generation to generation and we are the ones who have to take control of it and change it. Examples of positive changes: Wow, my eyes don't have as much fat around them as they did before. Wow, my double chin isn't as big as it was before. Wow, my double chin is gone. Wow, I have cheek bones. Wow, I have collar bones. Wow, I actually have knees. Wow, my back fat is going away. Wow, my butt cheeks are shrinking. Wow, my face cheeks have shrunk down so much, I can actually see my ears. Wow, I'm sexy. Wow, who is that person in the mirror? It's time to start rediscovering the new you.  You deserve it.  Once you realize that this is something you can do and you get into the habit - pay it forward!  There are a lot of women out there that feel the same way that you do.  And remember, it's not about the scale.  When it comes down to it - you want to buy a smaller pair of pants - what matters in that aspect - the inches or the pounds? You can do this and are already on the road to success. Keep up the good work! Tonja

Pull back on those reins of emotions.  Girl you are not even a month from surgery.  Feel how loose your clothes are.  How your pants aren't as tight you will get there.  I don't measure, I just try on my smaller clothes and see if they fit  or if I just need to give them away.  We all have our skinny clothes keep trying them on, I missed wearing some because I thought they would still be to tight, boy was I wrong, the skirt fell off.  Glad I didn't wear it to church.  that would give the preacher something to preach about.  Go try on new clothes and find some clearance. Have fun.  I don't want beef I dump going to have to work on that, just give me my homemade veggie soup and I'm happy. I have been eating it everyday for 2 months.  Oh well!!!! Lea Ann

Ok, here's my story... I lost weight and lost it FAST. 140 pounds in 11 months!!! I struggled with the "I don't see it" all the time. My husband would get so mad at me, saying how GREAT I look and I'd just half smile and say "whatever". Finally for my one year surgerversary I got my pictures taken (the one thats my avatar here). I took that picture and made it my screen savor on my computer!!! I saw that picture every day, all day long. And slowly but surely over a couple of months - I saw myself as that person in the picture!!! But it took a looooooong time. It will come for you too!!!!  HUGS PS. Funny vanity story..... Today was dh and I's first day of Bible college. I came in and sat next to dh. He introduced me to a man sitting behind us, here's the manuscript:  dh: oh, this is my wife Laurie man: what? this is your wife?? She's beautiful *Laurie turns red* dh: yes she is Laurie: but dont tell her that or it'll go to her head.  man: it should go to your head, you are very beautiful OMGSH!!!!!!!!!!  I about DIED of embarassment! I still have issues with compliments. 

Sarah, One standard brick used to build houses weighs 4 pounds.  Find some...and start stacking.  For every four pounds you lose, add another brick to the pile.  Amazingly, after 4-5 bricks, you won't be able to lift it. Can you imagine that weight was once on you instead?  If you can't see it with the measuring tape or in the mirror...just look at the stack of bricks.   You talk about a great visual. Hang in there. I want stuff NOW, too. Cathy

Thank you!  Cathy - your story was great! I am diffinately going to try the brick thing! Btw - glad that your surgery went well! Lea - Thanks for the encouragment!  Tonja - I am going to start looking in the mirror and asking it...."Who is the fairest in the land..." me! Laurie - I loved your story! You do look GREAT! Pattye - I shall keep my chin up! Thank you everyone!  I really do feel better now. Sarah ------ I actually am smiling :)