ONEDERLAND!!!

When I was visiting with the psychologist prior to getting my band, he asked me what my goal was.  I told him that although my goal should be 160 or so, my personal goal was 199...so I could get out of the 200's. He made comment on my evaluation that I gave myself goals that were too easily obtainable, and didn't recognize the ones that were more specific to my body-type. ***sigh***  oh well...that's not something that most people would understand. Congrats, Ruth! Cathy

Cathy - it is so easy for the psychologist's to over think our goals.  I had actually set several goals for myself - the first one being to get off my meds.  I reached that goal at about 4 months after surgery.  Then it started with actual weight loss.  Reaching 200 and breaking through it was a major goal - and in 7 pounds I will no longer be OBESE.  Which is strange since I started at "SUPER MORBIDLY OBESE" and I am almost just "overweight".  I have a "life goal" of getting back to my high school weight of 160.  However, I think I will look extremely anorexic if I get there, so middle ground would be around 175.   I had a follow up with the psychologist at my one year mark and we discussed the need to review and reset goals at that point.  I think it is a great idea and also to be sure that you have access throughout your journey to a trusted psychologist so that you can cross check yourself if you are getting off base.  I didn't realize I was still harboring some whacked out ideals and it was a gut check to see him at 12 months.  I always knew I was a little cracked but really!!  (kidding!) I think back and review my successes often and always carry that "before" picture with me.  Although I still see myself as the "fat" girl, it is really strange when I see a picture and don't realize it is me!  I did that recently when I was holding one of my twin grandchildren born in June.  I kept looking at some of the pictures my daughter had taken and I couldn't place one of the people holding my g/d Julia - and she looked at me with a weird look and said "you're KIDDING right?"  It was ME!!  And I didn't have a clue!  What a dork! Keep your goals and don't forget to measure the smallest ones too!  Like getting off your meds, being able to buckle the seat belt, having to move the wheel closer in the car, etc. You'de be surprised how much success we actually have in our day to day lives!  ((HUGS))