Concert was So Greatttt !!!!

Me and dh are really having problems. I am thinking about getting a divorce. I am truly unhappy with him. I am interested in another man at this time. We are friends but it seems to be going somewhere. We have been meeting 3-4 times a week to talk. You guys can think I am nuts . But he is more my age and treats me like a lady Opens my car doors. Puts my shoes on my feet. He tyreats me like a princess. and he is so funny. I love to laugh.. He also has more to offer me. My husband now is 8 years younger than I am he is not good for me. He never talks to me. I think he has servere mental illmess. I am missierable. You all no how I tried. So Dog Me out Do what you think fits.... I am misserable. I need someone I can talk to and laugh with Take care Barb

Life is way to short to live it being unhappy. Do what makes you happy! Best of luck.

Thanks Cathy, Life is short. I am just not ready for all these changes. I need to seek counsling. I will get a appointment set up. I use to get counsling and they all say I need to leave him. I never did. Hugs barb

Barb, I agree that life is too short to be miserable. You have wings right now and you want to fly while you feel as if others want to bring you down. You need to do what your heart tells you to do. I'm sure you have thought this out and give it the benefit of the doubt, so follow your heart!!! If your husband makes you feel like s**t than you don't need that. I'm sure you've been brought down enough in your life and now is your time to shine--with or without him! I'll support you in whatever you chose to do. Love ya Josie

Thanks Josie. I am going to get this taken care of one way or the other. My daughters our worried about this as well. They know how unhappy I am. So time will telll Thanks Hugs Barb

Barb, if you know you would have left even without the new guy then you are probobly right to do it. Be happy. If your dh has mental illness you are in emotional and possibly physical danger.. We care to much about you to have you keep going through that... but don't do it just for the new guy.. 10 years down the road you may feel like this again....Know you are getting out because you need to get out.. That's my words of wisdom. I will think you are special here what ever you do! Blessings and Joy, Pam

Thanks Pam, Your so right. Need to get this worked out the right way. Thanks Hugs Barb

Have you considered conseling? If your DH won't go--go alone, and get a perspective on why you are feeling so hostile toward him. It can only help. A prince wouldn't ask his princess to cheat--only a toad would.--Just my humble opinion. I've been there, so I'm not judging, just don't rush into anything. We women don't need a man just to be special--find hapiness in yourself, and work from there. Best of luck!!

Your right. I need to get this right Thanks hugs Barb

Ann... I am sorry to hear you are still having problems. The thing is my husband is supportive of me.to a point. It just that when another man compliments me it means so much more. I feel my husband has to tell me I look good or sexy. He is morbidly obese too, and I keep asking him why he won't consider the surgery. He makes me feel I took the easy way out. I want to go out and enjoy my life now.. and I feel he wants me to be the wife to just stay home like before. Our kids are old enough to stay home by themselves for a few hours, and when we go to a party or such he is always ready to leave. I am always having so much fun and it is like he does not want me to. I know there are others out there feeling the same way. Reaching for the attention of the opposite sex, because they feel neglected in some way. I tried to get counceling.. he said he was not going to change for me like I was not going to change for him. You just need to do what is right for you and what is going to make Ann happy. Our lives are so short. I think a group of us should go out some Saturday and go dancing. I think it would do us all good to let off some steam. You take care dear! Hugs Julie