OT-My dad-the horses butt

My sister just emailed me, and now I'm mad. My dad asked my oldest sister, Lisa (who is totally supportive of my RNY) about my surgery. When she told him, he went off on a tangent. What the h_ll is he thinking? Doesn't he remember first-hand what obesity did to my mom? She died in a nursing home at age 52, after having a stroke at age 47. Doesn't he think I deserve more? I just don't know why he thinks it is any of his business--I haven't spoke to him in over a year, and he has no relationship with the sister who emailed me. It just makes me so mad that even after all this time that I even give a hoot what he thinks! Sorry to be such a bummer on a Friday afternoon, but I needed to vent!

If you need to vent, we're here to listen. Dads can be royal a__holes, can't they? I'm lucky, my Pop and I are good friends, but I hear you...sometimes family member and well-meaning friends think they are the authorities, when their opinions are completely skewed. Love, Julie in Akron

Right now you need to just focus on your surgery. You can not let anyone upset you. You have done your homework and you know what you want to do. My dad and sisters drive me batty to. I try to keep away as much as I can. I do not need this negative energy so near my surgery date. It makes me mad to. Take Care. You know what you want It is your choice noone elses. Take Care Barb

its not dads, its people in general..... Some people just cant stand to see others improving themselves or getting ahead. Don't worry about what anyone that is non-supportive of your surgery thinks, there opinions just aren't worth thinking about. kevin

its not dads, its people in general..... Some people just cant stand to see others improving themselves or getting ahead. Don't worry about what anyone that is non-supportive of your surgery thinks, there opinions just aren't worth thinking about. kevin

Theresa, It is just like Kevin says...it's all people, not just Dads...it's just that our parents' opinions are important to us regardless of our relationship with them. There are going to be people who do not like the idea of this surgery for you for many reasons... you are pro-actively changing your life and essentially "who" you are to others. They have known you as overweight, and they are comfortable with that. You will be messing with their comfort zone. Some people do not really want anything good to happen to others. When others are successfull, they take stock of their own lives and are scared of coming up short. Also, those of us who have had the surgery, or are pursuing the surgery have access to knowledge and statistics that the average person (even some medical professionals) do not. We are empowered with the knowledge. The "mysteries" have been revealed to us. Continue to write this board with your feelings of frustration...everyone here is so supportive and understanding. Don't worry about apologizing for reaching out! Good luck Theresa...things will get better. Liz Hillsboro