3mths. and 50 lbs.but.....

I have my 3month post op visit tomorrow. I have lost 50 lbs. I, of course, am happy about it!!! I am also a little ashamed of myself. I really don't feel like I have done anything to "earn" this. I had no complications. I have been able to keep any food down , with a few exceptions. I really haven't developed a regular excersise routine yet. I just don't feel like I have really had to do anything so far. Have any of you ever gone through this? Don't get me wrong, I am grateful that things have been pretty easy to this point. I just feel a little anxious. I don't want to ... hell, i don't know how to say this. Maybe ya'll know what I am trying to say. I am not really comfortable with the attention that I have been getting from men. It seems wierd and so foriegn to me. A man at work today was smiling and trying to catch my attention. I was like a 13 year old girl!! I haven't been approached by anyone with out a prison record or under 60 in a long time. I guess it was a bit exciting and flattering. I am married, almost 9 years now. I love my husband and my family. He, my husband I mean, has not said one word about the way I look, or how much weight I have lost. Unless he wants to ( and that isn't very often) ... he really hasn't said much of any thing. I am confused. Or crazy. Advice???

My husband is the same way. he doesnt even talk about the surgery, He always tells me he is sick of hearing me talk about. It is almost like he could care less. Or reality hasnt hit him yet/ I am getting ready to have my surgery. We will see how he acts then. Take care Barb

If he is sick of talking about it now,tell him to get ear plugs.lol, thats all I talk about still. We never were able to talk about ourselves before. We have alot of years to catch up on don't we?

Thats right the talk has just began,,,,,,,, Not to mention the shopping. He needs to buy earplugs.................... and he needs to listen to me as well. Take Care Barb

I really think some husbands like us fat because they feel safe in the marriage. They act like we married them because we couldn't get anyone else. Just asure him how much you love him and he will come around. He is very scared probably of losing you. I have read so many books on this and it is very common. Ask him how he thinks you look. You are very lucky you feel so well . Enjoy it and don't feel lucky,feel blessed. Good luck on this very exciting time on your journey and keep up the good work, Love,Cindy

Getting a good exercise routine started now will help you a lot in the long run. At the OH event one thig I consistently heard the professionals say is that if you want your success to be life-long. You must include exercise in your routine. The weight may be coming off easily right now, but farther out, it will get harder and if the good habits aren't in place by then, you will have to work a lot harder. Large people have high metabolisms in most cases, believe it or not. If you exercise, you have the advantage of keeping that higher metabolism as you lose weight and it gives you a big advantage. If you don't exercise, you begin to lose muscle and muscles burn fat and obviously you want to burn the fat. Since your muscle is responsible for burning fat, if you lose muscle, you lose that fat burning capacity. Also, you need to remember that your heart and other vital organs are made mostly out of muscle tissue. This is the main reason anorexics end up having heart attacks. Your body is not selective about which muscles it burns off for energy. By exercising and getting in adequate protien, you are insuring that you don't cause serious damamge to your heart. Just thought this would help you understand how important exercise is in the whole process. Hope this helps. Hugs, Jaimee

BY the way, Great job on the weight loss so far.! 50 pounds is awesome!!!