Is it me or ? Lately i...

Is it me or ? Lately it seems like a lot more fellows are looking at me. Which I really don't mind but it appears I've become more visable. Or am I more of a sideshow freak now with my saggy skin (half of which don't show in clothes) I've never considered myself attractive so this is definitely a boost for my self confidence. But then I thought.... Or is it me? I was at a baseball game last night, when it occured to me that I was getting more looks, but then I thought, are they really looking or am I walking with my shoulders up, my head UP and actually looking at life in the face, instead of avoiding peoples looks. Have they been looking all along and I just missed it? I do seem to remember me watching more WHERE I walked and at peoples legs more before, (I was always afraid of falling, so I watched where I stepped and could see people coming by their legs.. well anyways). Now here again, another problem I have recently figured out. I don't know HOW to SMILE anymore. This is a vanity thing for me, see I wear dentures and those suckers ARE TOO BIG also (waiting on insurance to approve new toothers now too) Yeah ya loose weight there also. That when I do open my mouth even a tad... them suckers fall out, like I have extra long teeth or sumtin.. I mean it hurts to eat even, insurance needs to hurry up! OK now that y'all are laughing at me, stop and tell me how to get over this vanity problem. I was NEVER vain but this teeth issue is .. omg Can I not smile, talk, leave my home until I get my new ones? It's really even hard for me to show up at work at this time. My goodness how embarrassing! Gosh I kinda feel like a freak just posting this, don't look behind my computer now...

Vickie, I also walk looking down so I don't fall and make a fool out of myself. I know I also gained some weight to avoid men looking at me. I didn't know how to handle the attention back when I only weighted 125 and was a young co-ed at BGSU. For many years I've felt safe and secure at 310. But, know I'm ready to lose and ready to handle the looks without fearing what could happen. You are a beautiful person and now that you're losing weight you want to fix other things about you too. It's not vanity. It's liking and loving yourself. Enjoy the attention and smile inside for now until you have the smile with your new toofers. Have a super weekend. Luann

that's a first... i'm speechless Luann I wrote out a whole big response to you earlier... where it went? Who knows... I must've wrote it in invisible ink... lol Well that was hours ago, so now I will just say Thank you!

Extra poligrip may help. As for the attention. why not try n relax and enjoy it for what it is. A recognition of what you knew you really were. A beautiful person

tried that.. like a whole tube in a few days and the cheeeit gag's me.. and still plop.. been extra quiet at work lately Ok, relaxing... and going to enjoy it.. now if one speaks to me though! I'll just talk through my hand until I can speak w/o dropsy Well Thank you Jack ;)

It is rather an adjustment. The attention is sometimes flattering and sometimes unwarranted, but the hard part is turning them down without anybody getting hurt for me. I have found that smiling and saying that it really made my day, but I am in a relationship works well. Vanity is a huge issue now, before I would just go anywhere looking like a slob because who cared right? Now I like to have my hair done and make-up on and try to look my best. You will meet someone, it just takes time. You are going through lots of changes right now anyway and who you are today is not who you will be tomorrow. Goodluck, you are not a freak! Cheryl

Vickie!!! I just smile when I see you have posted, then hurry to read it everytime! (I haven't been on much in the last two weeks) I know what you mean about looking down when you walked before WLS. I didn't look down because I was worried about falling. I looked down so I didn't have to see other people looking at me with THAT LOOK. You know the one, like they have limburger cheese stuck to their upper lip. The look that says, EWWW, how could someone let themselves go like that. Anyway, I walk looking up more now too. I left a support group meeting a couple of weeks ago. I was walking back to my car when I realized it...there was a guy on a motorcycle checking me out! Guess what my first thought was...are ya ready? I thought, man! he needs a haircut-dude is way too old for hair that long. LOL. Of course it helps that I am married to an incredibly handsome, wonderful man-but even so, a little look from a stranger is always an ego boost. Just enjoy it. You have worked dang hard for it and people should notice. Good luck with the toofers!! Becky 254/199/145 11 weeks out and I have made it to ONEderland!