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Loraine I know what your going thru. I am 2 weeks out and I feel the same way sometimes. I wake up thinking "How is my day going to be today" I'm always thanking about food,I cant tolerate the protein, I want to munch on foods and Sometimes I wish that I had'nt done this to my self. But when I get dress and see the inches that I lost(lost almost 2 dress sizes) I then feel "cool I'm glad I did this" But I too want to feel "normal" again> I mean I hear everyone and they sound like it was a breeze for them and I want to feel the same way too! I really didnt think that it would be so hard post-op, all I heard was good things about this surgery. And let me tell you I still THink Its a GOOD IDEA! But I'm not a very strong person so i say after 4 children and being on my own since the age of 15,but thats a whole Jerry Springer story Anyways girl I'm here if you need me,I guess we can meet these challenges together huh? God Bless girl Rosie

This is not an easy journey for anyone believe me. Nothing this great could be easy. When someone says this is the easy way out you can smack them. It does get better and easy. Give it 6 months.Then you can say its easy. Love,Cindy

your so right Cindy. Rosie

Laura, I am almost 5 mos out. What you aare experianceing is COMPLETELY normal. Not only is your system and hormones trying to recover from a MAJOR operation, but you are also mourning the loss of food as you used to know it. Just the recovery from the anestesia(sp) and the operation can make a person weepy and somewhat down, I think it is part of the healing process. Then you add to it the new relationship that we have with food. So what you are feeling is normal, and it will pass with time. If you are feeling too down you might want to talk to your PCP or go to the therapist that you saw for your eval b-4 surgery (if you had to have one) Also , if you are not already linked up with a local support group that has meetings, I would urge you to locate one. This board is very helpful, but going to a meeting with others in the same situation is great too. I wish you all the best, and if you need anything....I am only an email away. Hugs to you Sherri

Isnt it crazy that we think we arent important enough to take the time to rest, sleep and heal. I feel so guilty when the kids come home from school and I am napping or reading in bed. And yesterday ( hanging my head in shame) I decided I was well enough to go back to work and went into the office. I felt totally beat up coming home. Whether or not we are still in a lot of pain means nothing. Our bodies and all those new areas of healing need plenty of rest and nutrition to heal properly. So I have vowed to myself this morning that I am going to take this time to adjust to this new life emotionally and physically, and quit rushing things. Thank you for your response. Hugs, Laura

Oh Loraine, you are SOOOO not alone in this. At only two weeks out I wish I could tell you it will end soon but I am 7 weeks out and still weepy. I read the other day that anesthesia can take 6-8 weeks to get out of your system, plus the fat cells that are disappearing are releasing hormones...it's like the world's worse case of PMS. I can say that I am less weepy/angry than I was before, so it is slacking off. I have a LOT of other stressors in my life right now too, and a couple of times I have resorted to going to bed and staying there. I may end up losing one of my jobs over it-if that happens it would suck, but you know what? I'll find another, I needed a big healthy push of the me button, I am still recovering from MAJOR surgery and I deserved to sleep! It does get better...my new mantra. Keep getting your feelings out, in a support group or on this board. Looking for help like you did is the best thing you can do. Take care! Becky

Laura, I just want you to know I am here for you. If you need to give me a call, please email me and I will give you my number. Just hang in there sweetie.. I am sure we will experience many emotions during the months to come. Love and Hugs, Julie

Julie, It just all hit me hard because I have been soooo positive about everything. I think being off my Effexor for 10 days has something to do with my depression as well. Not only our the bodies changing and adjusting our emotions are as well. I thank you for offering your support.. Love and Hugs Laura

HI laura, Hope things are going better. Did you try to put me in your yahoo? It did not work if you did. I will be here for awhile. Remember, you are not alone!!! Richard

Laura, I just posted a call for support for you,but I didnt see this post of yours b4 I did it. You really do have a lot of people all over that are here for you..Everything you are goong through is normal..You need to rest honey..your body needs to heal ok? so put your feet up and relax and before you know it you will be getting more energetic and start to feel better. You know I would be there if you needed me to be.I would get the money and fly up to see you..It looks like there are a lot of good people out here to help you.Talk to us we understand what you are going through..NOW..SMILE and have a good day tommorow..I am still praying for you,,just let god handle this and he will heal you...God bless you ,,and God bless all of these wonderful people on this borad who are showing the love for you.....Ron in Yuma AZ>