mourning rant

hey everyone! I'm not very happy today. My granny died this morning. The nursing home said she died in her sleep sometime after breakfast. She had been overweight  for as long as I can remember. About 5 or 6 years ago, she was put on oxygen tank because of her emphysema.  She had beeen in and out of the hospital most of this year, and like 2 weeks ago, she called 911 while in the nursing home because she said they wouldn't do it for her.  The emergency crew took her to the hospital and kept her for about a week before transferring her to different nursing facility. She had a host of problems, diabetes, high bp, overwieght, lung problems, my sister said she had congestive heart failure. I have been scarred of dying from this surgery. But I know that the chances of that is less than half of one percent.  I also know that I am bigger than what my gradma was.  I bought a pack of ciggarettes, wanting to let lose some of the stress, but I just couldnt smoke em.  I am so through with this bs. I have 2 kids, and dammit  I want to be thier mommy! So I'm doing this, and I thank God for making this surgery availiable to me.

  we all have suffered in one way or another in our lives. But it sounds like you have made up your mind to change your future (for the "BETTER") for yourself and your kids. If I can try and change mine than you can too. It will be hard at times but you can do it. We'll be praying for you. Dave

Sorry to hear about your grandmohther. Peopl treat over weight people different in nursing homes and other places. I know first hand. before i had thje surgery i waited to long insurance companies wouldnt cover me i ended up having a heart attack. I now haver to live with chf. But my heart is getting stronger because i had the surgery. So Im glad your doing this. And it is not as dangerous as they say. This surgery has came a long way and they got most of the quitches out of it. Best wishes Barb

you have CHF?.....I do too.... Dave

First off, my sympathies for your granny. Second, I completely understand what your going through. My mom died in March 2006 from being overweight. High blood pressure, cancer, diabetes, breathing problems, bascially just about every comorbidity that you can think of she had. She was also in a nursing home when she died. She was even suppose to come home the day she died. When the nursing home called that day we certainly didn't figure that's what they were going to tell us. I told told my hubby that I was giving it one year to lose the weight myself or I was looking into the surgery. Well before I knew it March 2007 was here and I didn't lose a thing so off to the Dr I went. He completely understand and was behind me for wanting the surgery and he referred me to Dr White. That was the best trip to the Dr I had ever had. So now in just a few more days, the big day will be here. I'm having the normal pre surgery freaking out stuff but I still can't wait. It will be great to have energy to play with my kids again and to watch them grow up.

Thanks so much for your thoughts and your prayers.  My sister and I are holding up pretty good so far, its my unle thats freaking out. She had an insurance policy out on us and I thinks that was so sweet of her, she got it in 1983.  Its those lil things that make you cry and realize just how big the human heart can be.  Have a great weekend!

Lisa, I am so sorry to hear about your loss! You will make it through and you need to make a committment to change your life for the better! You can do it and that is what she would want you to do! Be healthy!! Take care! My thoughts and prayers are with you! Malissa

My sympathy to you and your family.  It is a difficult time for all of you. When I was exploring my surgery options, my hubby said " I love you, I'm afraid I'm going to lose you.  I waited 18 years for you and I want the rest of my life with you.  I don't want you to die as a result of the surgery".  I had to see my primary doctor the next day (unrelated) and she had a few extra minutes so we discussed my option (and got her support 100%) and hubby's comment.  Her response for him was "if you DON'T have this surgery, you WILL be the next female in your family to die before you're 65".  Three months later I had my first post-op visit with her. It is such a wonderful choice to have available to us.  I no longer have my comorbities of high blood pressure and high cholesterol and I've been off my diabetes meds since 5 months post op.  Its been worth it! BTW...I'm originally from Toledo! Gabby