Question for all 5 yr. & up post surgery "losers"

Hi all.  Have a question for ya... How many of you that have had your surgery since about 2002 have re-gained some of your weight back?  I have a very good friend who had her surgery back in 2003 and after all the agony of recovery from WLS and then 2 reconstructive surgerys, has gained more than 30 pounds back!  Is this normal?  I have noticed that she is able to eat quite a bit again, and we won't even get on the sweets!  She said that her surgeon told her she could expect to gain about this much back...Have any of you heard that before?  Reason I am so concerned is that she has gone from a size 12 to now size 16/18.  and even those clothes are getting a little tight on her!  Do I say something, or leave it alone?  I have personally been trying to get this surgery since 2003 with no luck and it worries me that if I am finally able to get it, that I can "look forward" to regaining this much (or more) back. Please let me know.              Jen

yes it can happen. I eat kind of normal now. I jus****ch what i eat. I dont eat like a bird.  I havent gained my weight back. almost 2 years out. because i excercise and make healthier choices. Your friend is destroying her surgery. Do not take any of her advice. You know what you need to do to be sussceful. She may have something going on in her life. I would never eat sweets. what kind of surgery did she have. This happens with both surgerys. barb

Hello Jen,  I had open RNY 11/17/2003. Here's my story. I'm only 4'11" so VERY SHORT but NOT PETITE I do have a large frame for being short. The BMI charts state that I should weight 95-123 I got down to 114 which is the picture you see here. My PCP yelled at me for getting to THIN even thought my BMI was NORMAL.  So I let a few "bad" foods back in and got back to 123. Well LIFE happened. I have been and always will be a big time STRESS eater. So lets just say the I have gained more than what I wanted. AND BOY DO I KNOW IT, FEEL IT AND SEE IT. I am now trying to be VERY careful in what I eat. I'm trying to get back to basics and not gain any more and to lose what I have gained. SOOOOOOO Here's it in a nut shell. You CAN REGAIN if you go back to OLD WAYS OF EATING.  As far as telling your friend that's a hard one. If she is like me she already knows she has 'messed up' and really doesn't want some one telling her what she alredy know. What I would so is see if she would like to workout, walk, Just talk in general about how eating and regain but like I said if she is like me she know and is just trying to lose what she has regained.  Robin

I'll be 5 years out and up until recently had to struggle to keep weight ON... My doc also said it is normal to regain some but I am so paranoid about that that I weigh daily...... I also eat mostly anything and it depends on the day whether I dum*****t........go figure..... I currently weigh 117-120 range let me know if you have any questions Tina