Please help me get my foot out my A$$ and my Mouth

Good Evening: Yesterday I had my 2nd eval w/Nut and she told me I have one more appt to go. I have told my grandmother and my brother about my decision and I finally told the love of my lifehowever now he has thousands of questions and has told me he loves me the way he met me @ 308 pounds. He is from the south and thinks that I'm well rounded--even though I carry my weight evenly (some areas more than others) I am MOB. I told him I planned on having the lapband and I explained to him that I would be more than happy to show him the procedure on line and what it consists of. His next reply to me was if this is going to have an affect on us having children. Me >>myself don't want to have children being this heavy because it is going to be 2xs as harder to get the weight off. So I planned on having kids in the next 2 years after the surgery. But I'm so concerned that he is going to be "over concerned" about my decisions. He has told me he supports me and wants to be there for the surgery...but I wonder if telling him right now was the best decision---and to fuel the fire I have not told my mother yet (panic-- worry wort--hypercondriak etc) I planned on telling them the day I got my surgery date but I could not hide it from him any longer. He picked up on how I have changed my eatting habits and what I eat so I knew it was a matter of time. ****Please help****

I think it's great he has no problem with you being heavy. My husband was the same way. Hopefully, your man will remain true to his word and continue to support your decision to become a healthier person. If he doesn't, I would question his motives. Why would anyone object to you doing what you have to do to become healthier? Some men do prefer their women to remain fat so they feel less threatened by the possibility of another man finding you attractive and cheating on them. For some, it could be control issues. If you become thinner and more attractive, they will have less control of you because you will undoubtably become more confident and outgoing with your new thin body. Assuming though, that your man is not like this, give him time and ask HIM a few questions. Just to give him a frame of reference, give him a scenario like this: If I found out I had heart disease and needed heart surgery to remain healthy, would you object? Or if I had a broken leg, would you object to me getting it fixed/casted etc? Of course he wouldn't object, he loves you after all. So you just need to explain this decision in much the same way, that it will be a procedure to ensure you eat healthier portions, and make healthier food selections. It will help you have healthier children and probably even affect his eating habits as you probably prepare meals at home. Sometimes they just need that extra reassurance that you're doing this for your health, not so you can look good and hit the bars trolling for studs! Good luck! Lori