Okay, so I am scheduled for RNY ....

on Nov. 27th, and I am scared to death!!! That is only 12 days away!!!!!!!!!!! I know that its normal, but it doesnt make it any better. I keep going over in my head that I'm very confident in my surgeaon and his capabilities but it doesnt help the panic that I feel. I keep thinking what if this is the last time that I do this or that with my kids and or my husband?!! Please help!! : ' ( ~Jeaninne

Jeaninne Congrats on your surgery date I was scared to death also but I know it was the right thing to do I am one year out and I can do things I thought I would never be able to do.Your going to be fine My prayers will be with you and hopeing you have A speedy recovery best of luck to you Michael

Thanks Michael....That means a lot!!!

I am in the same boat as you are. I go to my surgeon tomorrow to get my date. I am hoping for 11 27 06 or around there. I am scared to death too. I have two young sons and keep thinking the same thing. I was thinking about writing letters to them just incase. Yesterday I saw my PCP and I told him I was scared i won't wake up from surgery. He said not to worry I will wake up...... But that after surgery is when I need to be watchful. So that has helped me a little bit with nerves. I am going to a support group meeting next Tuesday and meeting some people so I am hoping that will help with my nerves too. Lets see tomorrow when I get my date how I feel. Your feelings are completely normal. Everyone that has gone thru this or any surgery is scared to some degree. Keep us posted.... ((hugs))

I too am scared (surgery scheduled for 11/27), but frankly, I think that if we weren't, maybe we shouldn't be doing it. It is not to be taken lightly. The last couple of days I have been a compilation of emotions, and I know it's not going to get any better until it's done and I'm back on my feet. However, the thought of living like this for the rest of my life brings me more fear than any part of this surgery. Have faith my friend. We will be fine. Tonya

Ive thought about doing the letter thing and I dont know...I just cant bring myself to do it. I probably will the night before though. I almost think of it as a self fulfilling prophecy...is that right? I have to think positive!!!!

Hello! I was reading posts and saw that you are going to have Dr. Chlysta do your surgery. I too have Dr. Chlysta and wanted to let you know that I had my surgery 7 months ago. I was a mess... but he was excellant not only in his skills but in his bed side manner. When you are waiting for your surgery, ask for something to calm you down. I did and the staff there gave me something immediately. I also wanted to let you know that I will be at his support group meeting on Tuesday. Please say hi! Marti will be there too! I met her here, and we are great friends now. Marti will be at support group also! Dr. Chlysta said that it is after surgery that you need to be watched 'cause of the two complications. One being is a blood clot and the other is a leak. He does all to prevent both.... and I am sure you will be fine. Just listen to him! Talk to you Tuesday! Judi

Jeaninne, I'm not scheduled yet, but I have met with the surgeon -- same one I see you are going to have. I know that there are risks, and I am considered a higher risk patient (had pulmonary embolism in my past and on blood thinners), but I felt soooo at ease and comforted after talking about everything with him. He is very good and seems to be very precise in every single movement he makes during surgery. As far as writing the letter thing......I thought about it after reading some others had done it, but then decided not to because I truly feel good about the whole thing. Good luck!

Just try to relax and think about all your goals, not your worries. Think about how different life willo be 6 months, 1 year from now. Try to imagine how good it will feel to be thin. Is it worth it? You betcha!!!!! Hugs, Darlene

Jeaninne: It is sooo normal to be petrified!! I had my DS about 6 months ago and felt exactly as you are now. I was sure I would be a statistic and die or something and I have 4 children still at home (am a single mom too!). I did end up writing letters to my children. Anyway, research and know everything there is to know about your type of surgery. That helped me pass the time and feel more confident about how I would feel after the surgery. You will go through so many emotions between now and when you have surgery. I had days of sheer panic where I wanted to cancel my surgery date. I had days of calm where I just knew this was the right decision. And I had days in between those two extremes! I didn't sleep a wink the night before my surgery. I watched my 2 year old sleep. I wrote my letters. I prayed a lot. Good luck to you and just know that how you feel is perfectly normal. Debbie in Kettering - DS with Dr. Maguire on 5/15/06 SW - 281 CW - 215 GW - 140