2nd thoughts...
I'm having serious 2nd thoughts today...what is up with that? I am already grieving for my favorite restaurants and struggling with myself between just going out and eating, and staying the course (Ive given up pop, most sugars, etc...). My surgery is 2 weeks away. I really want to eat at BW3s, red velvet cake, cheesecake, tumbleweed steak....how do I resist this? Am I making a mistake with the surgery? What if I do it, and fail because I can't fight off the desire to eat these things I love?? I know that if I don't have this surgery as scheduled, I will live my whole life miserable and overweight. I know that I need to do this... any advice? anyone out there have these feelings??
What your going threw is very normal. Within time you will be able to eat your favorite foods. But in a moderate amount. You will be glad you made this discision. With a 50 bmi You really need this surgery for your health. But only you can make that decision !!!! This surgery saved my life........ I was able to eat anything before my surgery. I had plenty of last meals. I wished I had dieted before my surgery. To get all that food out of me. I had a hard time at the hospital with my first bowel movement. It was so painful. I felt like i was going to die with the gas and being sick. So it is good to diet before. Because I still had so much food in me from the day before.
Best wishes
Barb
Oh my dear, I am pretty sure we all had the "what the heck am I doing" thoughts..and we all were where you are right now, miserable with our weight but longing for our favorite foods, though it is true you will at some time be able to treat yourself once in awhile to something yummy, you will actually surprise yourself by resisting. It feels so good to be down 150 lbs that I don't think about them that often, I have found other favorites and alot of good recipies that I can turn to instead. I don't enjoy the taste of sugar as I did before surgery. When I do have this terrible craving then allow myself that one bite I have this..ewww yuck look on my face, it just doesn't taste the same.(not to mention the dumping) After the weight starts dropping something happens to our minds..we want it bad and will find away around it..With holidays coming up it can be difficult, I suggest to anyone to get very involved in support groups. I myself go to counseling to keep myself straight..I do fine but there are times I let my emotions throw me back into overdrive and I would be tempted to eat anything in sight. Oddly enough the holidays have not been that difficult for eating "bad foods" with turkey and vegetables, salads and fruit type or sugar free deserts I do just fine. YOu can even find sugar free pumpkin recipies and my favorite way to eat apples, cooked with splenda. Take the time you will have this first year while losing to learn a new way of eating, then reach deep down and find that person hidden inside, bring her out of the closet, brush her off and look in the mirror and the new beautiful and happy you will be staring back..
This is so worth the roller coaster ride, no one said it would be easy or perfect..no one said there will not be challenges..but take one step at a time and look at each challenge as a learning experience. I agree no one can make this decision for you, but hopefully we can help you see there is a great experience in your future..just think what you will be doing this time next year, what vacations will be like, what it wil fill like riding a bike, a horse, walking some trails or just being able to breath in the heat!! and the clothes...oiy the new clothes....sit down and write down all the reason for not having this surgery vs the reasons to have it. all the good things I mentioned will probably outweight the negative ..
you will do just great!!!
good luck
Brenda
Read my profile, I had second thoughts, enough to back out of my first planned surgery.
What if----What if you don't have this surgery, and obesity wins?
What if you die too young, have a stroke, don't live every last day to its fullest?
What if your children see a parent who doesn't take a wonderful gift, and use it to be more productive and healthier?
What if--you are ashamed of yourself for not trying?
Let your conscience be your guide, and look within.
Thank you guys so much for your encouragement. I'd be lying if I said I felt ok again with my decision - I am suddenly scared to death (not of the surgery - but literally of "losing" all my friends - pepsi, pizza, orange juice, etc). I do feel better today than when I wrote that post....I have thought about this for a long time, and my head knows that it is the right choice for me. (can you see the 'angel' on one shoulder, the devil on the other...the devil one saying "have a pepsi, just one...come on...").
Anyway, I do feel better but not where I was a few days ago. I saw my nutritionist today (session 3 of 4), and she was comforting as well, reassuring me that all this was relatively normal.
Anyway, thanks for your support - it means more than you know...well maybe you DO know. I'm sure I'll be fine in the long run - I know I have to do this. I'm not going to cancel. I can't. I don't GIVE UP to much of anything (dang kids, those puppy dog eyes will make me fold every time! - and they are 16 and 22).
You are right. I can't give up this fight...I am literally fighting for my life. And I'm worth it. Thanks. I hope you don't mind if I lean a little bit for the next few weeks - I promise to be the "leaning post" for someone else down the road....when I can offer words of encouragement that are sincere, and honest, and from experience.
I most certainly will pay it forward. Hi Princess,
My name is Mike and I am a Diet Coke addict. I am 9 months out from my surgery and have lost 120 lbs. I USED to drink a 2 liter of Diet Coke every evening. I would drink water during the day at work but when I got home, I started on the Diet Coke. I finished my last 2 liter bottle the middle of November last year and have not had a carbonated drink since then. I am far enough out that I could have a little but I refuse to try some for fear that I might like it again like I used to and I don't want to go there again.
My wife and I go out to eat and we order 1 meal. I cut off a little steak or chicken breast or whatever the meal of the evening is and she gets the rest. With the large size of meals that restaurants serve, there is plenty for both of us and sometimes she doesn't even finish what is left for her. I do not miss anything because I can eat what ever I was able to eat prior to surgery. There are some things that I choose not to eat, pasta, rice, diet coke, but I can have cake, just not a very big piece but enough that I can taste it, and that is enough.
I am not trying to talk you into having this surgery, just want you to know that you can eventually eat most anything you could prior to surgery, just not as much.
My grandparents used to own a farm out near Brownsville. Where are you located.
Good luck.
Thanks Mike - reassuring words are so great to hear!! It is not my intention to ever have a pepsi again - though I'm telling myself I can have some (not a whole one) on my birthday (its in May). I fully expect to not care by May....I used to be a smoker, and I still say that someday, I just might have one (I can't tell myself I won't - cuz then I'll just want it more). Its been more than 5 years!
Brownsville, yup - not too far from here. Thanks again for the "experienced" words of wisdom...all of us scaredy cats want to keep reading those kinds of things!!
I have to agree with everyone. The hardest part of my decision was the food issue. I am 2 years out,I eat anything I did before but not nearly as much. I think I eat like a normal person now. I have never dumped on anything so I eat a piece of candy, not the whole bar anymore. It is hard the first year because your whole life has changed. What got me through was losing alot of weight fast and not even wanting anything to eat. This surgery was a life saver for me and I have lost and kept it off. Good luck,it's the best. Cindy
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