For the WOMEN....

hi Pam, My sex drive is UP UP UP!!! and it was UP before I had my WLS! I am well into menopause too. My hubby avoids me says he can't keep up with me. HUGS Deb @ Indian Lake 253/166/145

Hi Pam, At first I didn't have much of a sex drive, but I know that all I need to do is get started and I'll definitely want to finish!!! It was the least I could do for my hubby. I think it's the hormonal changes we're going through while losing this weight. They started giving me occasional acne, they took away your sex drive, which really sucks!! This might very well be manifesting from the other complications you've suffered along your journey. You sounded down when we were chatting the other day on email. Do you think you may be suffering some depression? It could be your disappointment or it could be the hormones, but it IS treatable either way. You just need to ask for the help. You've come too far to hold yourself back, Pam. This is your time to shine and enjoy life in general as well as your married life. Your hubby is such a teddy bear and seems so proud of you when I ask about you. (don't worry, this post will NOT make its way to him) Val

Pam, I can completely sympathize with you.. I am 45 years old and had to have a complete hysterectomy just a few months preop on the WLS.. I think the HRT helped somehat and I wanted sex, but like Sharyn, no one interested in taking me up on it. I had to go off of the Climara patch due to one breast lump after another, so again. If I am not reminded of sex being a part of life, I honestly dont think about it. But I do certainly miss the hugging, sweet kisses and the physical closeness of being with a man. And I know the sex part will come easily when I find the man that floats my boat. I am not a one night stand girl and finding a nice guy can be a hard thing to do. So just be patient, your body is still recovering and those hormones can really play a number on you. You might try Suzanne Somers book "The Sexy Years". It talks about safe bioidentical hormones that one can try to help boost the libido and jump start those fires in you again.. I havent done that yet, because there is no fireman in the future to put the fires out, so I had just better keep them smoldering.. Just hang in there Pam and you will do just fine. I forsee lots of Jumping of bones in the future for you and the Hubster. Love and hugs Laura