Do you miss anything?

Good Afternoon! I am curious to hear from you guys if there is anything that you "miss" about being M.O? Is there anything that is different now than it was before (socially, emotionally, physically, professionally etc etc.) that you miss? For me, I think I miss being 'invisible' sometimes. Hiding behind my big fat wall was comforting. I do not have that anymore. I went from a MO person to a size 0 in less than a year. I have noticed the attention level (from doctors, strangers and people I know alike) has completely gone through the roof. I always think, "oh now you want to talk/be nice to me but nevermind me when I was ms fatty fat." It's amazing. When you are fat, no one sees you but when you are small, everyone sees you. That doesnt make any sense. I have never been winked at so much in my life. Everyone from the deli counter guy to doctors wink at me all the time, what's going on? The surgeon even winked at me while I was lying on the operating table right before my last operation. Did everyone go and lose their minds? Come to think of it, I think I miss 'buffets', is that sad or what? I think I miss the excitement buffets used to give me. That is pretty sad! I cant believe seeing and having access to alot of food would make me excited, oh boy. Talk about issues! I miss my fat sometimes wall but at the same time, I know it had to go. Have a good day and weekend everyone. Tavia

Stay out of my mind!! I could have written this post myself! I TOTALLY notice how much "attention" I get now.....from everyone. Is it because Im more open to talking to people or is it because I look good () and no one REALLY wanted to talk to the fat girl before??? Whatever it is...Im sure glad its here!! :D Lisa 371/341/187/140

Lisa, It is probably a bit of both, no? If having this surgery doesnt give you a backbone, I do not know what will. Hee-Hee. I am definitely taking a lot less B.S. from people than before, that is for sure. I just do not want to deal w/ B.S anymore. You are right, no one wanted to talk to fatty fat girl before. oh please.

Hey Tavia, I don't think there really is anything I miss about being MO!!!! Sure I was able to eat whatever I wanted w/o getting sick, but instead I just kept getting fatter and fatter and more and more unhealthy!!! I have a new lease on life and I am enjoying it!!! Give me the attention, give me the winks. I LOVE IT! I LOVE THE ATTENTION!!!!!!!!! I feel that after 30 years of being the fat girl, screw it, I want to be the average girl! I don't need to be the skinny or thin girl even, average is just fine! Plenty of men are noticing me being the average girl and that is great!!!! Ok, here is one thing though and I quickly snapped out of it! I was shopping last weekend and I saw a dress and it said it was a size 2. Which either meant a true 2 or a medium. So I kept looking at b/c it seemed rather large then I realized it was a 2X and I quickly said I wish I could still wear a 2X. Then I snapped out of it and ran over to the 12 - 14s and said NA - AH, I don't ever want to be plus size again!!!! My best advice for anyone who might be thinking about what they may miss, just keep looking forward, don't look back. We all have a new LONGER life ahead of us... ENJOY IT!!!!!!!! Feel good Tavia and give Gellman a big kiss from me! I see him in about 3 weeks!!! Ilyssa 268/176/???

Hi Ilyssa, I am very happy to hear you are doing so well, it truly is inspiring to read. I can tell you there isnt that much of a difference from being average to thin. It just about not being fat anymore thats good!! Oh I know. It just sucks I havent had a chance to enjoy it. I spend most of my day w/my son so when I get the "comments/winks etc", I am usually with my three year old son. I find this quite annoying rather than amusing. People will be stupid what can I do. For me the size 12s came and went and it will probably for you too so dont get used to it! heehee. Take care and keep up the good work. Your new pictures look fabulous by the way! Thanks so much. Tavia

Hi Tavia..... I have to day the attention i have been getting is so Cool... I dont mind it one bit. Every time i start to miss some kind of food i think about all the comments i have been getting and all the looks i have been getting and i dont miss that food anymore...I am getting so much more confidence back. I am begining to love taking pictures again....and not have to hide behind my kids haha. THis surgery saved me both physically and mentally! I hope you are feeling better.....LisaMarie

Hey Lisa, I am so so happy for you, you dont know. I am so glad to hear your confidence is coming back. It is a super feeling, isnt it? I can see you like to take pictures, hee hee. You look so great though, take more!!! I wi****ook more pictures pre-op but I would hide the minute a camera would come near me. oh well. Anyway, I am so happy you are doing so well, really. How is the water going down? I am doing ok, thanks for asking. Talk soon. Tavia

Tavia, Hun I do have to be honest here and say for me somestimes it is missing sitting down and eating a BIG meal, I mean to really enjoy that BIG meal of food. I know and I feel so much better now but somtimes that feeling peeks back in and I would love to be able to REALLY enjoy a plate of food. I don't know if that makes sense but that is what I miss at time. I would not trade the surgery for anything but I can't help but feeling that loss at times. Lessen lately because I know and feel so much better but it still is in the back of my mind, slowly leaving. Take care ~hugs~ Debra P

Deb, Well I think we lived our lifes on relying on food for comfort and for many things as well. Of course this surgery ripped it right away from us so it is quite the adjustment. Like Marian says it is alittle like losing your best friend. Hell, I wouldnt trade this surgery in for anything either and that is coming from me! I hope you are doing great, take care. Tavia

Tavia~ right now the only thing I miss is being warm! Ive been sooooooooooooo cold this winter its horrible. There are foods I miss, but not enough to go back.