ok here is an update.

Hey everyone! The eating while drinking thing is not working. It is giving me a whole new set of problems(throwing up, spitting up, bloating, feeling of being washed down, cramping etc) and its no way to live. Ugh. Well I gave it a try! I do not want to deal with this right now. I do not want to ruin my families holiday let alone end up in the hospital during the holidays. So I am due for a pre surgery visit the first of week of Jan and then a revision op. on during the second week of Jan. He will just revise the Y connection so it isnt like he has to pull apart the whole bypass, just that connection. This problem has been around since forever and needs to be fixed. It was man-made and needs to be man-fixed. This answer was just really really hard to find and very uncommon. Naughty Y-connection giving me all these problems! The surgeon wanted some medical proof of what was wrong with me before he went in again and he got it. He saw(just as much as I did) the food just sitting by my Y-connection like it was taking a nap on the beach w/a pina colada in its hand. No good. I know this is very sad that I have had to go through all of this. I especially feel so bad for my husband and son for everything they have had to go through especially since having the RNY was my choice. Everyones emotions are running really high right now(even the surgeons) so its good to step back for a couple of weeks to cool off and then tackle this problem once and for all. Everyone has to remain calm, especially the surgeon! But we are all human, no one is a God here. I know this sounds silly to some people but I know Jesus walks with me so I have nothing to fear. I do not worry about having yet another surgery b/c I am not afraid of pain (or death at this point) but the effects this is having on everyone who cares about me is what I am worried about. If I end up having some post-op complications, my husband, some of my friends and the surgeon will probably shoot themselves. I will just deal with it like I always do. I know a lot of people blame the surgeon for my problems but I do not. This is b/c they do not know the whole story and the easy answer is to point the finger at him. This hasnt been his fault and I will keep on defending him. He is such a good man and surgeon. He has gone beyond what most would do and the lines were crossed a looong time ago. Pointing fingers this way and that is not going to get my any better and getting me better is matters right now. I know everything happens for a reason so I am looking forward to figuring out why exactly this all happened to me of all people. I know this is my answer and I look forward to moving on already. Take care everyone and have a great holiday! Tavia

Tavia, If this is what you need to get your life back then that is what has to be done. My heart is with you and your family. You will prevail! Take care and have as wonderful a holiday time as you are able. Sandra

Tavia, You and your surgeon will work together to solve the problem. Our prayers are with everyone in this case because everyone is working so hard to fix what needs to be fixed. I love the fact that you are so supportive of your surgeon. He wants to correct whatever the problem is at this time. They do have compassion for their patients, which some may find hard to believe but I truly believe this to be true. Wishing you happy holidays with your family and friends, stay positive. Linda

(((HUG)))))) at a loss for words but you ENJOY this holiday season! AND then tackle this issue! YOUR a great person. AND you and your family are in my thoughts daily! LISA 310/193/???

Hi Tavia I am glad you will finally get your pain fixed. I am sorry that you have not been feeling well all this time but at least there is a solution to the symptoms. You are very strong and brave to go through everything you have endured up to this point. I too feel the same way as you that Jesus will protect us. Always remember he will NOT let us go through any more than what we can handle and whatever he leads us to he will be there to guide us through it. Keep the faith, I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts! Hugs Marianne

Dear Brave Tavia, I am so happy that you KNOW that Jesus walks with you! Please know that we are with you too! We send you our very best wishes , hopes and prayers for a final and successful outcome this time. We have said it before and we continue to say it God Bless you and your family--and keep you safe! Be blessed Marian S.C. 242/199/125-130 goal

Hey Tavia......Well you cant say you didnt try. Taking a little break and then taking care of things after the holiday is a good idea. You just keep that positive attitude things are going in the right direction finally for you. Im here if you need me! LisaMarie

You ARE an amazing person and you are right that everything happens for a reason and you will find that reason and HE is looking out for you and I will pray that this surgery will be the solution you need. I admire you so much for taking the proactive attitude that you have and dealing with everything that way, it says a lot about you. I hope that your family will find the strength that you have!! HUGS, Vi

Tavia, I am so glad you are finally able to get this fixed, even though you have to wait a couple weeks, you can get to enjoy the holidays the best you can with your family. You have such a great spirit about you I do believe Jesus walks beside you as he does all of us. He will be holding your hand during the surgery. I wish you the best and I will pray for you. Shannon Arnold

I am just so glad that you finally know what is going on and can get in there and get it fixed. My prayers are with you and I hope you'll be feeling good finally.