support group!!!
I see from this link there are support group meetings in Rockville Center.
http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/state-events-NY.html
There are also a few in Suffolk (Huntington, West Islip, and another group that meets further east in Mastic. I have the info if you are interested in any of these. They may be a bit of a distance for you.
There is a support group in Syosset also, but it may be more for Lapbanders.