Good Morning Check In

Hello All ~Hugs~ Just checking in to see what is going on here, what a slow board lately.. I know everyone will be back come the fall but I miss you all... Post hellos and let us all know how you are doing today? and come out lurkers, I miss ya too. QUESTION: How do you deal with people that act differently to you know that you are losing weight? I notice that some people at work act nicer now and that upsets me some times. I know jealous people can be a problem and them I would just ignore but it's the ones that act so much nicer now that you lost weight. Even the pre-ops here, how would you handle this? Thanks and take care all. Debra P 285/229/125??

Morning Deb, Yeah the board has been slow for a while now... Im doing good... I was bummed out earlier in the week. My doc cancelled my 3 month appt.. I was looking forward to my official weigh in. I think I'm doing well I guess, I am down ~58 lbs.. a little on the slow side I think... but hey you know what.. .it's off and I feel it! I tell ya.. I am still dealing with thinking this will never happen.. that I will never make it to my goal... cause all my life I've never gotten there. It's crazy to think that people would treat you better cause your thinner.. sad but true.. when your overweight people treat you differently.... I don't know why... I would confront them in some sort of way, regarding why they are being so friendly all of a sudden...?? The jealous ones.. well they are easy to figure out... and if they all of sudden are not your friend...well they really weren't a true friend to begin with. Ok.. well have a great day deb! Happy Thursday! Hugs Marla

Marla, Yeah I call my surgeons scale the "Golden Scale". It is funny how we get used to one thing and like to use that all the time. One of the times I was in Weigh****chers I would always use the same scale to weigh in every week, even if I had to wait on a line and the other one was free to use. It is just that way! Wow you are doing awesome hun ~Hugs~ That is great, almost 60 lbs gone forever. I know how you feel with not making it to goal but at some point we have to know that this WILL work for us as long as we use the tool right. The only thing we can do it try our best! Take care hun ~Hugs~ Debra P

HEY MORNING DEBRA!!!! U had a question that interesting....... I dont know if its the people treating me nicer or am i just more happier, smileing more cause i feel good that makes people interact better with me. What ever the case ill take it. We are the same as we were before just less of us!!! I think its me more for sure cause i know im smileing and more self confident. I dress now and feel good in my clothes were before i wore what fit. Well glad your well. I go to my surgeon later today for my check up. I did the blood work on saturday and hope to get a clean bill of health later. We will see ENJOY UR DAY LISA

Lisa, Hello hun ~Hugs~ my fellow set of numbers. You are so right about the feeling good and smiling thing, I do notice there is a much brighter smile now and the walk is a little different, good point! Yeah less and less of us everyday... I still dress the same but I guess it has changed some since I have been getting clothes from my cuz which are to big for her now. I can not wait to be at my goal so I can buy the clothes I really want to wear. Good luck on your Dr's visit today and keep us posted.... Debra P

Happy Thursday to all.....since I'm not on the loser side yet, I don't know if the people I intereact all day with will treat me any different. I was a somewhat normal size in high school (size 12) and my atttitude and personality has always been the same - outgoing, fun, spontanious (sp), i always say I'm a small person in a large persons body, so i hope that doesn't change. On another note, I got a call from my surgeon confirmaing my first appointment with hime tomorrow at 10 am.....how excited am i - can't wait. Pat

Patricia, Hello hun ~Hugs~ That is good that you have not changed due to your weight. I think I am still outgoing as always but I seem to be MORE so now that I am feeling better about myself. Congrats on your appt hun and I hope it goes well, please keep us posted. Make sure you write down your questions so you remember, I did but forgot my list that day. I was emailing him for weeks after the visit asking questions that I thought of along the way. Let us know how it went.... Debra P

Good morning Deb. You are so right. There are people out there who treat you nicer when you lose weight. I know this for a fact. There are two people here in my office who wouldn't give me the time of day when I was 325 lbs. All of a sudden it's like they love me or something. They come down the hall and I get the biggest greeting and comments about how wonderful I look. I just say hello and keep on going. What can I tell ya?... Some people are just shallow and fake. I don't let it bother me. I know what the deal is with people like that. Have a great day and just shrug that stuff off. It's not worth your time. Joanne

Joanne, Yes that is a good way to handle it, I always want to be polite so a nice hello with a smile is best. I have to say that I have known so many that are shallow and fake, you just learn that about them and move on. Not everyone is the same, thank the Lord! Thanks hun and have a great day! Debra P

Good morning Debra, It's 10am and I just woke up..... *yawn* It is a beautiful day outside, maybe I will sit outside for a while later. There is alot of discrimination out there against heavy people. Those people who are treating you differently now that you are losing weight, well, if they were a true friend, they woulda been nice to you even when you was heavy. I haven't lost any weight yet, I'm pre-op, just starting the process. I can't wait till I am a loser too. have a good day and take care, debby