scared to lose weight

I've been thinking about wls surgery for almost a year and just i've decided it is the best thing for me. Now that i've had my consultation with my surgeon and finally got the ball rolling i am having second thoughts. I have been overweight my entire life, I was always the fat one in the crowd, and everyone is used to me being this way and I'm used to me being this way. Lately I've been thinking and I dont know if i would be able to handle the new me after I lose the weight. I'm scared that my friends and family would start looking or treating me differently or that my whole attitude will change and I wont feel like myself afterwards. Has anyone ever felt like this before surgery ?

JT, I have 10 days to go before my surgery and I understand what you are feeling because I have felt the same thing. The only difference is that I see the changes that are bound to happen as something positive and I am looking forward to them. Maybe your family and friends will look at you differently, but maybe in a really good way. You are taking charge of your life and your weight, you are working towards getting healthy and that takes courage. So I would bet that everyone will be looking at you with admiration. Now onto your attitude about yourself... Do you like how you look and feel right now? Probably not or you wouldn't be thinking about having WLS. So don't you think that after you begin losing the weight and getting healthy, you will be proud of yourself? Happy that you have found the strength to change and grow? If we never step off the well-worn path that has brought us here then we will never know what our true potential is. I'm not saying that WLS is for you, but don't rule it out just because you are afraid to change... afterall, change is good -- it makes us stronger. Good luck to you, hon. Keep asking questions and searching for the path that you are meant to take in life. Hugs, Lisa Z 10 days and counting

JT being scared is a normal reaction , However be scared for the Medical issues which will sure face you if you dont get the Surgery. The effects of not losing weight will sure to catch uo with you. My reason for going into this Surgery is because of my weight I have been unable to do things with my kids that I once took for granted. Hun the Surgery is for you and you alone.\

JT, Hun I know how you are feeling! I am a new pre-op, only 5 weeks out and I was so used to my body the same way for the last 39 years so it does take some getting used to but WOW you start to feel so good when the weight starts to come off that it really is more of a worry thing, once you feel and see it moving there is nothing like it... You will handle it just fine... Some people do look at you different, some good and some bad. Some are jealous but others a truely just happy for you! It is nice not to be that FAT person in a crowd, well I still am but getting thinner... Hun hang in there....~hugs~ Debra P

My biggest fear is that my husband will see me different. Will he still see me the same? Will I make him as happy? I asked him today "would you leave me after the surgery for any...I mean ANY reason" He replied "leave you ? where would I go? ..You are my home." OMG I am in love....13 years & 3 children. JT Worry about your health and your family, friends but not about losing weight. True friends will last...make yourself a priority.