Too much information?

Hi there. I am new to this process, slowing working through it, reading as much as I can get my hands on. I have an appointment with my PCP on Wednesday, July 6 and I also have two consultations set up. One is with Dr. Garber and the other is with Dr. Homan. I have spoken to my insurance company, MVP, and they have told me exactly what I need to do to get approved, which isn't all that much. Problem is, my boyfriend says I am spending too much time at this site. I tell him there is not enough time to try and gather all the information I am going to need and that I want to be completely educated. He thinks there is a point where overload is going to get to me. I know this is silly but has anyone experienced this before? Once I found this site I couldn't stop looking at it. I want to know everything there is to know. I am excited and scared all at the same time about this entire procedure. Any suggestions about how to let him know how important this is to me? He says he will support me in whatever I do, which is a godsend, but he does get frustrated with me talking about it all the time.

Hi Donna, I'm also new to this and have my first appointment July 21. When I first found this site I was in all the time and I continue to be. I find that it is very informational (the good and the bad). A year ago my pcp wanted me to consider the surgery and I said no way. Well in March I decided to research as I was not losing weight but gaining and knew I had to do something. This is the best site ever. I have checked out other forums on this site and they are all great. If your boyfriend says he is supportive of this then he needs to sit back and relax and let you do what you need to do. You have to do this for you and do what you need to do to make it work. So I say just do what you need to do and don't worry about your boyfriend. If he is truly with you on this he'll be ok. Take care. Rita Ann

Donna, I suggest you have him read some of this himself. My husband loves the fact that I am trying to be informed. Remind him Information is power. The more you know the better informed you are. This site is a tool and people on here are going through or have gone through what you are about to do. Everything that happens to them won't ness. happen to you. Also have him read some profiles as they are quite interesting in themselves. Good luck. Hugs.. Chris

Hi Donna Funny you should bring this up! I am 9 months POST-OP and I STILL spend ALL of my computer time (which is alot!) at this site. No matter where you are in the WLS process there is NEVER enough information to gather! Topics are ALWAYS being raised, solutions and suggestions made, and lots and lots of love and TLC! My hubby teases me also about the amount of time I spend here but he knows this is important to me and like he has his TV I have ObesityHelp.com He will soon realize that this is going to be a lifelong committment on your part and once you begin going for all your preop exams I am sure his attitude will change. Right now you are just in the planning stages and just as I was my family became more supportive once they realized just how serious I was about going through with the surgery. I hope this helps you and other newbies who will read your thread! Hang in there. Hugs Marianne

Well i dont care what any one thinks i read this board and have been for months daily. I am now one month post op. I dunno, i guess inside he is worried when you get skinny you wont want him or something ....you never know whats really going on in their head. BE strong this is for you and keep learning all you can! GOOD LUCK LISA

Donna, You do whatever you need to do to be informed, comfortable, and feel connected. This site makes us feel better. It's a place to come where we all either have been there, or are going there, or have done that. The outside world can be very cruel and not very understanding of wls, so if this is what you need......you shouldnt feel uncomfortable doing it. Janean

Thank you all for the words of encouragement. I have had him look at the before and after pictures and I know that he has told my 12 year old son that "Mommy is tearing herself up over this so leave her be." I didn't even begin to think that he might believe I might leave him after I lose the weight. How silly men are!!! Donna

Donna, Hun some man think that when we are thin that we will not want to be with them at times, I see it happen all the time. The big thing is communication hun, talk about it. Make sure you keep that open the whole way through this and after because people think so weird things while we are changing our lives..... You have to spend enough time here to read and research for YOURSELF! When you get to get the point where you have read enough then you will know, take some time off and then come back. It has happened to me that way, I can go on reading things (pre-op) and when I just get lost in all the info I have taken in but I took some days away from the board and then came back. This place is like a 2nd family, my AMOS family. I would not have been able to go through all this stuff without them....~hugs you all~ Take care of yourself hun and do what YOU need to do to keep yourself and your homelife healthy...~hugs you~ Happy 4th..... Debra P