Sad Sack

Hello all, I really don't want to put this on the board as I always try to stay positive but this is a fact of the surgery that I need help with. I am sure what I am feeling is pretty close to normal but I guess I just need to say something. Is it normal to morn food already? I mean I feel so despressed by the end of the day. Not that I am hungry but the head hunger is hurting so bad... I just want to cry!! Does this pass? I knew I would have to deal with this sooner or later but I did not think it would be THIS soon. Well sorry for posting these thoughts but I just wanted to hear from my AMOS family, the ones that can understand this! ~hugs to you all~ Debra P

Hey Debra! First.....CONGRATULATIONS and Welcome to the losing side of the couch! Second......dunno if it's "normal" but BOY do I feel your pain! The night I came home from the hospital, dh brought home pizza for the kids.....they didn't do surgery on my NOSE! I wanted it! For the first 2 weeks that I was liquids only, I could not sit w/ the family at dinner (some reason b-fast & lunch were ok....I was never a big daytime eater, I suppose)....once I got past the liquids, and could eat a few bites of egg or applesauce, I was fine. But it *did take a while for me to find other ways to replace my old love. And I *did mourn my friend, food.....particularly his cousin, donuts. But soon enough......you'll have a new friend like me....SHOPPING! Hang tough....you're doing great! Claudia 8 months post -124 lbs From size 26/28 to 10/12 or medium tops

Claudia, Hun thank you so much for those words and I have heard many go through this but I was not sure why so soon.....I am on stage 2 foods from the 2nd day in the hospital but the bleended foods are very boring.... Well thanks again hun, ~hugs~ Debra P

Debra, Well, unfortunately I'm in the same boat....this week was the worst for me, because my husband went back to work at the end of my second week, so for the past week I've been cooking for my family....I'm feeding 5 children. I get in such a bad mood at dinner time. I hope it passes....tonite I tried to eat before I cooked for them....but my egg whites didnt compare to their meal. But I continually remind myself why I did this...and the saying, "Nothing tastes as good as being thin feels" it helps me a bit......just a lil bit. love, Janean

(((Debra))) It's very normal how you are feeling with mourning the loss of foods that you could once eat... It drove me nuts at first just like it's doing to you... I cried, whined to my fiance and was just plain crabby because it was a HUGE lifestyle change... Before surgery I went nuts eating and eating because I knew I would miss all the stuff I once loved... I won't tell you it totally passes as I still go nuts anytime pizza is around or pasta (but I know I can't eat it)... So I find ways to compromise with the pizza and I will make my own "pizza" with ingredients I am cleared to eat... It does help satisfy cravings... Darlin' don't feel sorry for posting this on here... We ALL have issues and need support at one time or another... That is what we are all around for is to support each other thru the tough times... It will get better and you are pretty early out from surgery and these feelings are so normal... It will get better so hang in there... If you're on the liquid stage or the puree stage right now those are the toughest stages... I know how you feel as I've been there... 6 months ago I was sitting where you are and feeling these same things but do I regret a thing? Nope cuz this is truly the best thing I could have done for myself... I feel great now!! Chelle 423/403/303/170ish

Hi Debra and all! While I'm still hoping for approval and a date, I'm sure I'll be on the same boat sooner or later... I can relate though and I do feel your pain...wish I could help... My psych got me approved for 10 visits, of which I have only used 2...he suggested that I saw him once--maybe--before the surgery and left the rest for post-op visits...He explained among other things, having other patients of his going through similar cir****tances and the focus of their post-op visits was focusing on this issue and how to cope with it. If you have the opportunity, you may want to try this... only god knows what I will go through when my times comes...I get pretty depressed and grumpy as it is now just thinking about the foods I won't be able to eat for some time (i.e., breads, pizzzzzaaaaaa, some fruits, etc.). Best of luck! (((((((((((((((((HUGS HUGS)))))))))))))))))) Dolly

debra- i think what you are going thru is normal. i know for me the first, three months were horrible. i missed food so much, i was sad, miserable and just plain grumpy for twelve weeks. my poor boyfriend i snapped at him all the time.i had an open rny with complications so i was out of work for twelve weeks. it got better for me when i went back to work. i think keeping busy kept my mind off of food, and i started to feel better. just know it does pass. donna open rny mar 18 2003 282/138/135

Debra Hey you, I just looking in tonight and saw your post. What your feeling , I think< we have all felt. I remember the 1st 2 weeks and at one time I thought " What in the hell did I do !! " Like some posts say above, I cant really say it ever stops.....it gets easier...for sure, But I dont know if it ever...or will ever stop. I can tell you one thing, you replace those feelings for mourning, with feelings of excitment when you see numbers moving DOWNNN on the scale, instead of up. I can tell you that I still to this day, mourn the loss of bread in my life.....I seriously have had dreams of biting into a PB&J sanwhich on SOFTT WHITEEEE FRESHH Bread.........I can sit and remeber HOWWWW GODDDDD it was when it stuck to the top of the roof of my mouth.........BUT,,..........I can also tell you how freakin exciting it was too see I was down 63 lbs........130 lbs........155 lbs.....200 lbs.......and now, 205 lbsss......Those are feelings that are totally more exciting than a stinkin piece of bread. Its NOT easy saying goodbye to things we love........even if one of those things we loved where food. But, somehow, its replaced with something else.........something thats a much happier feeling than that PB&J Sandwhich. Debra.......The 1st few months ARE HARD.........the 1st 2 weeks......VERY HARD, but trust me babe.....it DOESSSSSs get better !! Keep your chin up.....cry if you need to cry.....dream of bread, do whatever you have to do for now......because SOON, you will be replacing those feelings for MUCHHHH MUCHHHHH BETTAH ONES !!! This I CANNNN promise you !!! Love You Debra !!! Brenny

My sweet angelette Yes these are normal feelings, I too went through the same thing. In time it will pass it may seem like forever but believe me it will pass. Try and keep yourself busy if you can doing what you can. Give me a call anytime sweetie I am always here for you. I am happy you posted what you are feeling because you know we are all here for you! Love you a BUNCH!!!!!!! {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} Evelyn 247/130/-117 Past goal and feeling GREAT!!!!!!!

Deb, What your facing is my biggest fear. Being able to handle the change. As with all of us eating is not something I do because I am hungry. Its a way of life. A way to surely put me to an early grave. Remember why you did this Deb. To LIVE a long and healthy life. Stay strong and keep the faith. It will all be worth it in a few months. I know its easy to say and I will probably be posting the same posts as you. But I have faith in you and you can do it. Half the Battle is already won for you. I hope you feel better soon. Louis