1 week from tomarrow

im starting to get happy again about the surgery , i think what happened was dh was taking me out to dinner to make me feel bad cause i wouldnt be able to have the same food like chinese and old country buffet but like i told him this is what i want and then we had a heated argument and i found out he wants me to do the surg but is afraid because he dont want to loose me while (as he puts it going under the knife )... so we talked and now i understand he also said he was having dreames about me and when i lost all the weight he said he seen me with this other guy and it wasnt him ??????????????? i love the worry wart lol i just told him i love you and no one will ever change how i feel .... enough of that tommarow i go to surgeon for my preop clearence then just have to wait till next monday for the day i start my new life of being a loser thank you all for youre encouragement it ahs helped a great deal to now im not alone in this fight to be healthy thank you all lisa

Lisa, My wife is going through the same emotions as your husband. I just explained that as I am I wont be around much longer but after my Surgery my Prospects look better. I explained that I am more determined to have this Surgery then any other time in my life. I promised my 2 daughters 9 and 6 that I would ski with them this year as last year I just sat in the bar because I was to fat. I am going to keep this promise if it kills me . (hopefully it wont) LOL. There are certain things in life that one must do for themselves and to me this is it. Again I wish you Good Luck and will keep you in my Thoughts. Louis P.S. My wifes name is Lisa as well LOL

Lisa, Hun I am glad you have talked with hubby and talked about the fears because it really is important. It is scary because you hear so many things about people having the surgery and then there marriage brakes up but I really believe it has to be in trouble to begin with, then the person finaly gets confidence and will not stand for things they might have before, if that makes sense. The big thing with you and hubby is you TALKED and that is half the battle. I wish you the very best hun, all will be great.....~Hugs~ Take care Debra P