Question about LOVE

Ok so I have been with my Boyfriend for almost 4 years, Everyone that I talk to says "Oh once you get that surgery your going to leave him" That doesnt happen to everybody right, Its freaking me out cause I really LOVE my boyfriend. Has this happened to anyone here ?????

First of all Stacy I have a question for you.....Does your weight make your relationship what it is??? If yes then you may have a problem...if your boyfriend is with you because he loves heavy women or feels more secure with you being heavy you may have a problem...maybe not. But if your BF loves you because of YOU then you should be o.k I have been with my fiance for 5 years....He met me when I was around 220-230 and loved me when I ballooned up to 311 after our 2 boys. I made him a BIG part of my WLS. He was VERY supportive and came with me to every appt. I had. He is still a little uncomfortable with all the attention I get but knows our relationship is deeper and stronger than ever because he stood by me through it all. We are getting married in Aug. and we couldn't be happier.... Does WLS affect relationships??? ABSOLUTLY!!! But not always for the worst!!! Good luck!! Karry 311/189/167 goal

Hi Stacy, I have not had surgery yet, but my husband has admitted that he is afraid I will leave him when I lose the weight. I assured him of two things. One is that if I were going to leave him, I would have done it ALREADY!! (But if I were being completely honest, I would have to admit that I have sometimes wondered if I didn't need help because of my weight, would we have lasted this long - 20 years). Number two is honesty. I acknowledged that I was sure I would experience different feelings and emotions that would have to be addressed, but I believe my committment is such that I would be open and honest with him, and try to work through whatever comes down the pike together. Relationships are hard work. But it's not what happens to us in life, but how we respond to it that matters. Dawn

I think Karry said it all....she just pulled all the words out of my mouth..... I wish you the best.. Christine

Yeah I think that my boyfriend is with me for the long haul and he will love me no matter what ....I finally found a good one I'd like to keep him around...The way I looked at it when people told me is that there must have been other issues in peoples relationships to make them decide to leave there spouses when they lost there weight... I really feel deep down in my heart that its not going to happen to me so Im convinced now ..Just checking to make sure I wasnt going to turn into a Jeckel and Hyde (I dont think I spelled that right ) Stacy @{~~~{~~~~ I wish I came on this board a long time ago I get alot of positive feedback

I say good relationships survive.... troubled ones may not be as fortunate! Just my views...im not there yet so i dont know...surgery gettin close though!!!!!!