Roll Call ( sex question)

Christine just because I feel that way dosn't mean you are going to always feel the way you feel ya, know what I mean? Oh and you know I would never lie to you I am straight forward and sometime I think that gets me in trouble . Oh well the truth is always bertter ya know Have a wonderful day my angelette {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} Evelyn .247/132/-115 Past goal and feeling GREAT!!!!!!!

I understand but do you every think about it and feel that you are missing something that is suppose to be so enjoyable.....with your partner....I do think about it and I want to be more out there and not worry about what I look like or what he is thinking and feeling my mind just goes there and I think that how could he want to touch me you know what I mean... Love ya Christine

Yes there are times I do think about it but Chris if I have no desire what the heck am I supposed to do I feel bad for my DH too but hey I havn't seen him making a move either ya know. I am afraid I won't be able to enjoy it but I don't know! We will see when the time comes I guess. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} Evelyn .247/132/-115 Past goal and feeling GREAT!!!!!!!

But don't you think there is something wrong with that not having the desire to have sex.....I so think there is something wrong with it.....we are not dead (thank you god) we are still young and have alot of years to go before we should be feeling this way....Well all I know is I am going to discuss this matter with my Doctor this week when I go... Christine

Hi Christine, Good question and you know I'm going to put in my two cents in. I think alot of women before WLS didn't really enjoy sex because the way we look. It called self image. We don't see ourselves sexy, there for we don't feel sexy. Anyway I'm still not having sex. Not because the way I look, it's because I not have anyone I want to have sex with and I'm too busy for sex right now. Sure sex is great and with the right man [brad pitt] I would do it. I don't care how I look nake. Because in the dark we all look good But for now there are more important things I need to focus on. But just remember your husband married you for more then just your body. SO take it off and rock his world. BTW I'm very proud of you 101 pounds down. Go Girl!

Thank you for your 2 cents it is welcome here.....I do hope you will find your significant other to share with and enjoy the sex....it sounds like you are ready, but flight school first...then the nasty Thanks for you input and honesty...I appreicate it.... Christine

Hey Christine As for me, I have always been very sexual - even at my top weight. I know that I couldn't do as much or do for as long at that weight but I was always gung-ho to go for it. No, I didn't like the way my body LOOKED but I was fairly confident on how it PERFORMED sexually and how it felt to a man. Since I've lost the weight, I do feel more confident (even with what I call the loosey-goosey syndrome of loose skin) but I find that although I am still sexual, I am somewhat less sexual than I was pre-op. Now back to you, I think that perhaps the reason you still don't feel sexual may be because your issues with sex are not strictly due to your size. If so, losing 101 pounds would DEFINITELY have had an effect on your sex drive. It could be emotional, psychological or even physiological as your hormones do change significantly during the early months post-op. Perhaps you should look into other possibilities for the reduced sex drive. Good luck, sweetie. Renee H. 387/246/-141

I new you would have the confient for it, as you have confidents about everything it is in your natural and that is the person you are girl....I wouldn't have expected anything different from you ...thanks for sharing that with us.... Your right I have never felt comfortable with sex and I do lack the confidents in me that I should have, cause I know I am a good person....maybe I shouldn't think I need my mans approval on what is good and what is bad and just do it and see where it goes from there.....well it could also be menopause...I don't know I have been going through that for a while now but I don't think it's that.....so maybe I will deccuss this with my doctor I will be seeing this week... Thanks for you input it is always educational to hear from you and I miss you....I have always gotten alot from your post.... I hope to talk to you soon.... Christine

(((Christine))) - Girl, I WISH I was a confident and you try to make me appear. I have my insecurities just like any other person - especially women. It's just that there are some areas that I feel weaker in and there are areas that I feel stronger in. Sex just has always been an area that I am relatively confident in - even when I felt bad about the way I looked. I know that self-image, self-confidence, your perceptions of sex, your openness about sex, your partner, and your willingness to be open about it all tie in to what your sex life will be like. I also know that my doctor said that hormones in the early months are off and this affects your sexual appetite as well as your food appetite. It sounds as though you may have always concentrated on what is going on with your partner (is he enjoying it, is he turned on/turned off by the way I look, how is he rating me as a lover, etc.) instead of focusing on your feelings, comfort, pleasure, etc. I would suggest giving all these considerations some thought and speak with your doctor and/or gynecologist about it. Just the fact that you are concerned enough to bring it to light seems like you are open for means of improvement and headed in the right direction.

I'm sure everyone has insecurities, but you should know I always admired you and your insight.....your orua has always giving off a strong confident women and I'm sure most people would agree...... This is something that has dawnd on me and I needed to know if there was something wrong with me or is this common but I will address this with my Doctors and I'll let you know what the out come is... Every time I see you I can't get over the changes on the outside of you....you always was a beautiful women Nae Nae.... Thanks for the input Christine