Roll Call ( sex question)

Hello everyone Ok the day is not that great but we are NYer's so we can deal with anything right wooo wooo wooo go NYer's Ok I have a question for everyone this can be embarrassing but here it goes.... Now how sexualy active are/were you before surgery....and did it change for you after you had WlS and loss weight....do you feel different about your self now.....for those who had surgery and for those who are going to have surgery...what do you expect about sex after your surgery and loss weight.... I am asking this because....I never wanted to have sex I believe it is because of my weight and I was embarrassed to be naked....yes even with my husband.....I thought that might change after wls and I would want to have sex but I have lost 101lbs and still don't feel that sex is something that I can enjoy... ...I want to feel and enjoy sex too but as luck would have it I guess I'm just not there... I know this is total different of me to do but these are issue that we have as pre-ops and post-ops and we need to think about what when where and the best how? have a great day don't forget to take your vitamins, protien, water and sign some support pages today... and {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} Christine

Hi Christine, Okay here goes , Before surgery I didn't really feel comfortable either and I thought (my expectations were) that I would want to have sex more as I lost the weight, right??????? WRONG!!!! I have lost 126 lbs and I still could really take it or leave it . Dont get me wrong.....when my hubby and I have sex it is usually great but I just can't see myself initiating the moment. I thought I would be a little more aggressive with the initiation part once I lost a significant amount of weight but that hasn't happened yet. It is definitely more comfortable now that a lot of the fat is not in the way but I guess the rest is just going to take some time. It kind of goes along with the "still seeing that huge person in the mirror" thing. Your mind has to catch up with your body and for some people I guess so do the sexual aspects. Just my 2 cents worth. Hugs, Presh 395/269/170

Thank you for sharing that personal information with me and you took the words right out of my mouth the person we see in the mirror.....there are alot of psycological things we have to deal with with WLS and the one that stands out is thinking thin..... But what you said about sex I agree I thought I would be more aggesive about it, but I am not, I do hope that it changes but it's not the most important thing in my journey at this point.... Again thanks for your honesty and reply... Christine

Oh I forgot Congratulations on your 126lbs that is awsome you have done a wonderful job with you tool Christine

Good morning.... Well I guess I fit right in with you guys!!! I never felt comfortable showing my body before surgery even though he loved me as I was but I thought after surgery I would be more willing and enjoy it but I don't. I find I still cover myself and now instead of fat its because of my excess skin. My fiance' is supportive but has a hard time understanding why since I've lost 122 pds. I hope after my TT I will feel better about it but I don't know if thats the main reason for my problems. Hope everyone is doing well...other than under the sheets!! Doing the essentials and take care all!!! Karry 311/189/167 goal

Hi Karry I was afraid to ask this question because I was afriad I was the only one feeling this way.....but thank you for your response I know I'm not alone....I also think that with all the skin I have hanging from my belly that makes me uncomfortable too...so I don't want to ride the with all that hanging and flapping back and forth.... Congratulations on your 122lbs that is awsome, it seems everyone is doing great with there new tools... thank you for you response and honesty....it does make me feel more at ease with myself... Christine

Christine, Hello hun...~Hugs~ I just wanted to peek in and say that... Blah rainy day here...and I am sooo tired from my stress (worrying) but I am sure all will be ok... Well I can only say now and how I might think it would be....I enjoy sex very much with hubby but sometimes I just don't have the energy to get something going. More work then it is worth at times... I am hoping that will change after I lose weight but I guess we will see. I do enjoy trying new things and my hubby makes me feel like I do not have an ounce of fat on my body.. Thanks God love is blind... I just hope he will still love me after I lose all the weight.... Well take care hun Debra P

Hi Deb yeah blah to the day.....you don't have to worry girl we are all here for you and waiting with you if I remember you have about 13 days to go but who's counting right It's nice to know that some people are able to enjoy sex no matter what...and it's nice to know that your hubby make you feel that you don't have an ounce of fat.....I'm sure you will be trying new things when you have lost all your weight and I'm sure he will still love you cause you are the person he married and you will not change on the inside only on the outside you will change... Love you much Christine

Hey there Christine! Well I have to be honest before the surgery I felt the same way as you did and I thought it would change also but I have to be honest I have no intrest what so ever I really could care less if I ever had sex again I really do feel that way. I don't even miss it Hope you are having a great day! {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} Evelyn .247/132/-115 Past goal and feeling GREAT!!!!!!!

I do understand how you feel Evelyn but it scares me to think that I will never enjoy it or have the pleasure of sex...... I don't want to go with out.....maybe it just all in my head, or maybe I am thinking about it to much and worrying for nothing.... Thanks for your honesty and reply.... Christine