I just don't get it.....

I don't understand people.....At work on Sat. one of my co-workers thought she should tell me that another co-worker is very jealous of me....She also had lost over 100 pds w/ Weigh****chers and told everyone that I took the "easy way out".....Yeah right!!! My co-worker who told me said that this other co-worker is upset with the fact that I get the attention and she no longer does. What bothers me is the fact that she is "jealous"...why???? Wouldn't you think she would be happy for me? I have worked with these girls for over 2 years. I comment on her success with her weight loss all the time and she never replys. NOW I know why!! Also it kind of bothered me to know I was the topic of conversation at work when I wasn't there.....ya know what I mean??? I am just really bummed about the whole thing....I won't see her or my other co-workers till Thurs. and really don't know how I should approach this....Thought my WLS family could help......any advice???? Thanks everyone...... Karry but not today!!! 311/189/167 goal

Karry Hi. Your pic is wonderful. You look really great!! Congratulations These people who think you took the "easy way out" need to do a little reading up on what all you have to endure to have the WLS, not only before the surgery, but for a lifetime. The changes that have to be made are permanent part of your life now whereas your co-worker can return to her old habits with no consequences except regaining her weight. I would tell them they need ot investigate just what WLS is all about before they condemn someone for having it. The rigorous regimen you have to follow is worse than the Weigh****chers regimen. Your co-worker can sitll have soda, candy, etc. whenever she wants and not suffer any severe consequences. Tell them what consequences you would suffer if you do that. I think your co-worker just wants all of the attention. Just keep smiling and kill her with kindness. She will wonder what you are upto!!!! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Brenda

Thanks Brenda, I truly appreciate your positive comments on this....I know in my heart I made the best decision for me and my family that I could. I shouldn't have to answer to anyone, only the man above. Thanks again and I will do just like you said....kill them with kindness, that I can do!!! Karry 311/189/167 goal

Karry dahlin, I look at it this way.... WE know that this was NOT the easy way out. We have all worried about what other people thought of us for so long that it is time to let it go... I no longer care what others say, only because just the fact that they are talking about me proves that I am on their mind. WHY? I don't know, but do NOT let what other people (women especially) think/say about you get you upset. Jealousy is a pety emotion and we as post ops know just how hard we have worked for our success. (I bet she didn't have to eat from a baby spoon for 3 months)!!!! IGNORANCE KILLS ME!! Love you doll!! Jalonda 371/254/160?

Yeah Jalonda, She of all people should know all the negative things I went through at work....The 6 weeks of a liqued diet prior to surgery, the pre-testing, the eating soooo little in the beginning.....But what gets me the most with her is the fact that she brought me in some of her clothes when she was also heavier. Doesn't make sense, does it??? Why be nice and bring someone in clothes and then talk about them???!!!! Like I said...I just don't get it!!! Thanks for your help....and kind words!! Karry 311/189/167 goal

Apparently this co worker has no clue about how difficult the surgery is. Also, I have an idea if it weren't you and your success, it would be someone else and whatever they were going through that everyone would be talking about. Unfortunately that is human nature especially in the office. Karry, from your picture you are a very pretty person on the outside and unfortunately it is also human nature to give attention to the pretty on the outside people and maybe your co worker isn't as pretty and she feels neglected. Remember those days when you felt ugly in your old body? Another idea is that maybe this co worker hasn't discovered she is looking better on the outside too....maybe she still feels her old body is still with her. Who knows. Well I've rambled on enough I guess. As they said earlier, keep your head up high and know you did what was right for you and know you can't control how she feels. P.S. I'm sure you are also pretty on the inside.

Hi Dawn... I know that gossip at work is ALWAYS there but it still hurts when your the topic...especially when it comes to my surgery. This is the most major thing (besides my boys) that I have ever done for myself. I thank god every day for giving me a second chance on life. I still see a fat person sometimes in the mirror....I guess its because I looked in that mirror for 30 years and thats what I saw. I guess its the fact that I am such a complimentive person. I tell her alot of things that make her feel good about herself, why not be the same? I am a positive person and now that I've lost over 120 pds I am even more positive. I hold my head high but it still hurts..... Thanks for your help..... Karry 311/189/167 goal

Karry, I hate all the b/s that goes on in the office... I had that comment but to my face about it being the easy way out and that was from my boss... Ignorance hun that is all it is.....I know how I am and I had to say something to him about what all you go through and I think he saw that with all the testing and such but I am sure he still has it thoughts..... We can not change how other people act only the way we react to them. This is what I might do if I was in your place but then again I am one that has to confront things or they will just bother me...I would print out some sheets with info about what pre and post op WLS'ers have to go through, maybe hand it to her and say you heard she wanted to learn about your WLS experience.. I bet that would shut her up and maybe she might just read the info and learn something and not be so ignorant.....You have to do what is right by you hun, take the time and think about it. You are very beautiful hun and you should be so proud of yourself and if others are jealous then so be it.... Take care Debra P

Ohhhhhh Deb, Can I give you a big hug??? ((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))) Thanks so much.....Your pic looks fabulous by the way..... I am like you, if I don't address the problem it will bottle up inside and just about kill me!!! The thing is, she KNOWS about what I've gone through and just thinks it's a piece of cake. Which I can never eat again and she can!!!!! I think I will find a way to approach her on this and be tactful but to the point. My boss has been the most understanding person through my whole surgery process. She and her husband came to see me in the hosp. I work in a hair salon with 7 other girls so yes things can get VERY catty...but the others have been sooooo great, just this one!!!!! Thanks so much for the compliment and yes I am proud of myself, we all should be!!! & Karry 311/189/167 goal

Karry, Hun I LOVE hugs... Thanks and now I know why you have such beautiful hair.... take care Debra P