my mom is worried...
i am now sitting next to my mom (I am 48!) and she is worried. Heard terrible stories about the RNY ... I have lupus, under control, great heart, lungs, and BMI of 41. She heard that people become deathly ill and fears the worse form the surgery killing me or the procedure. She feels I willl never be able to eat fod! I am motivated, imformed and ready. Can anyone add something to mom- she is the love of my life (besides my husband) and I hate to see her so distressed!
Everyone around me seems to be worried about me having the surgery too. But what I find is that most people have been educated by hear-say and nightmare stories made up by "they". You know how "they" talk.
Anyhow My basic argument in favor of surgery is:
What's more more dangerous the surgery or being morbidly obese. The health risks are in my opinion far worse with obesity than the risks of surgery. The surgery seems to be pretty safe based on the numbers available. I haven't had the surgury, I don't even have a date yet. I am basically just researching it for myself at this point.
(looks like I just convinced myself)
My son was out of his mind with worry over my decision to have the surgery. I explained to him that the doctors said if i did not lose 100 lbs I was definitely going to die. I told him that he needed to have faith, because hundreds and hundreds of doctors have performed this surgery and that the results have been amazing. I told him I was having this surgery so I could LIVE!
~AND~
now he is just very proud of his new streamlined Mom! I no longer have to take bp pills or cholesterol pills or any other pills! I am not sick all the time with one thing or another either! Tell your Ma to have faith in your desire to survive, in your surgeon's expertise and in her higher power.
the end result for me was death the way i was eating i have hep c rheumatoid arthritus and sleep apnea... i was eating everyday wrecklessly and if i didnt have the surgery it was only a matter of time before i killed myself eating myself to death i also suffer from depression.... since the surgery i have gone from a size 20 to a size five i no longer have knee pain i no longer snore or stop breathing in the middle of the night....... i would not change anything for anything.... my surgeon does not sugar coat anything this is no doubt a life altering surgery and is very dangerous but so was the way i was living before... i am now almost 9 months out and eat everything i just have learned to know my limits and my choices have been way better
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