Why can't some people understand????

This is the exact reason why I am not telling my family about it until I have a surgery date - or even until after I'm post-op. Heck, some of my family doesn't need to know at all, but I'm sure word will spread like wild fire (like everything in my family). I think there are two reasons people react with such negativity. One, I think people can really be ignorant about obesity and have no idea how incredibly difficult it is to lose weight. It's not like we all haven't tried a million times already! That's how we got in this place! Plus, I know from personal experience that some women get jealous knowing I'll be having this surgery. They might only be a few pounds overweight, but they think I'm taking the easy road and I won't have to work at it like they do. Please!!! I've been working at it my whole life and it's hasn't helped. So, I've learned to keep it private as much as possible. Then, come on the boards and vent to everybody!!! LOL!!!

I also am keeping my decision very quiet, one- to avoid the same things as Andi is goin through and two, i think it will be just a great feeling to have people say "hey you look great " and all the other things, it will be most fun with friends or family i dont see all the time- out of staters! I dont think ill tell anybody i had it done cept for my parents, sister and wife.

Andi I am so sorry that you are getting negative remarks. Just remember what I told you in your previous post. If this is what you want DO NOT let anyone or anything discourage you. Do this for your self and no one else. My family is supportive of my decision, but were relieved that it was cancelled. My husband said he was relieved because it scares him and my daughter because she has a fear of losing me. So alot of the negative remarks come from fear and from not knowing and understanding. Don't lose faith and keep forging ahead. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Brenda

Thank you everyone! I actually woke up this morning in a good mood. Can you believe I was actually questioning myself over something that one person said--and she doesn't even have a weight problem--that she thinks I could do it w/o surgery if I "set my mind to it"! I was having a very emotional (once-a-month) kinda day! But, thanks again to all of your wonderful words and thoughts! I appreciated them so much! And, I am so excited about my seminar with Dr. Sapala tomorrow morning! Would love to hear from you if he was your doc! Hope everyone is having a great day and may God bless you all! Andi

Hey Andi, I know exactly how you feel. I told my sisters and one of them is okay about it and the other one is so against against it. I was so sick of hearing the "you have such a pretty face, if only you lose some weight," bs... They have no idea because they have never been overweight in their lives... i have been dieting my whole life and never got any results. I am doing this for myself and my daughter, and you should think about yourself and not care what anyone else says. I cant wait to get through the whole paperwork process.... and get a surgery date. Dont let anyone get you down. Just tune them out.... Like my husband said to me..... it's my decision and I have to live with it and myself, nobody else, so dont listen to anyone but yourself. Good luck...