Hurt & Very Upset !

This afternoon my Aunt called me asking me what type of diet I was following that I lost so much weight. I told a white lie and told her that I was following the Suzanne Sommers diet, and I walk, no sugar, white flour etc., etc., etc.,. When I got off the phone I figured I better call my sister and remind her that she is the only one in my family that knows about the WLS and that is how I want it to stay. Her response (to my request reminder that she knew since August) was "If I Am Asked I Am NOT Going To Lie!" I reminded her that this is my personal medical history and it is nobody's business and again she told me she is not going to lie to anyone. I told her that I told her in confidence as my sister and I do not want anyone to know about the surgery and it is just like the HEPPA law. She then yelled at me and told me She will not lie--she does not lie---and my losing weight is not on the top of her list and she does not give a I am so upset that my sister if asked would betray me like this just because she claims she does not lie! Now I wish I had kept my mouth shut and not told her anything!! We are supposed to go out to dinner with her and my brother-in-law for Easter and the way I feel now I feel like saying we are just going to stay home! I am in tears! I should mention that my sister is 46 years old--married in 2003 for the first time--has no children--and if she says the moon is pink then the moon is pink! I feel like I have to walk on egg shells when I talk to her because she can explode and yell at me--but DON'T do it to her! Was I asking to much to make this request of her??????? Thanks for listening--I needed to vent! Marianne

Marianne Don't make this about you. That is such a fair request of anyone especially a sister. I cannot believe she would be so ridiculous but it sounds like this is just who she is. I'm not sure what you should do about the whole aunt situation but it doesn't seem as though your sister is being very supportive. Good Luck to you! Tina

I should clarify I do not expect my sister to lie for me--just to tell anyone who asks that they should just talk to me! If I was asked to keep something private in confidence I would. If I was being so wrong--then why is it not wrong for a Dr. not to discuss our medical history with anyone other than those we permit? With respect to my Aunt--I did tell her I have enforced portion control, cutting sugar , soda and bread from my diet and exercising. Thanks for all the advice! Marianne

i would kick her butt!!!! but thats just me Stacy 232/140.5/140

Marianne I am sorry you had words with your sister. I do believe she should respect your feelings. All she has to do if someone asks her about your weight loss is simply say; Go ask Marianne. That what she does not have to tell a lie and she is not telling your personal business. Take care Chin up Tammy

Marianne.....it's no one's business about the surgery you had, AND in all reality, you are watching sugars, carbs, fats, and are exercising... ..so as far as I am concerned, your not lying. You just did not elaborate on what is keeping you on track. As far as anyone asking your sister what your doing, her best response would be " Doesn't she look great, I think I am going to ask her what diet she is following too ". You go girl!!!! Susan

Wow You're sister and my sister should go out for lunch together. Because she sounds a lot like my sister. They are both "witches" My sister is the same way just as moody and claims she doesn't lie. Please everyone LIES. Those that claim the don't are lying to themselves Maybe your sister is jealous of you. Because you've lost all of your weight or was just in a bad mood. Just tell her where to go. Put her in her place and if the doesn't work smack her across her head. Ok ok ok, all joking side, Just keep it in prayer. I'm sure you both can work it out. I'll keep you in prayer too God Bless you

Thanks Everyone I really appreciate your responses to my post. I am doing better today. In fact after the phone conversation I emailed my sister to explain what I was trying to get across to her. I have not yet gotten a response. We shall see! I'll keep you all posted! {{{Hugs & Many, Many Thanks}}} Marianne

Marianne, Do NOT sweat the small stuff. Yourt sister might just be a little be jealous of you...of how happy and healthy you may be. There is not much you can do if she cannot hold her "blah blah mouth". If people find out, so be it. Who cares? It is all about you your health, and your life...I personally do not go around telling people what I had done, but if they ask me, I tell them. It is my life, my business. My X-boyfriend who likes wide size woman thinks I took the easy way out, but he does not know any better and is clueless about the risks of living morbidly obeses. Thank God, I had a pricelss support from my family and frineds, I am happy and getting healthier. It is all about you, Marianne, and she wants to tell, let it be. She might just be jealous once again. Good luck with your new "bad" healthy self. Now, you just know not to share any secret with her. Too bad you cannot trust your own sister May God bless you! Regine