Helping others? or hurting others?
SO I am extremly happy with my weight loss and the way my body is changing, but some people seem like they are against or 'hating' on me. There is a woman who has known me for over 4 years, way before I had my surgery who I saw today.. She is probably an 18-20 sz. but she looks at me and says,,, "Ugh!! You're just wasting away". I was taken aback and said "thanks" Now usually have the witty come backs, but I wasnt expecting someone to be so rude. But then I realized it was Jealousy!!! So I figured, it is not my doing... except for the fact that I am one hot chick.
But on to other things, I work in a resturant (weird huh) and I do get overweight guest that I have hinted about my surgery too when they inquire about food. If they ask if something is oily I might mention that 'with the stomach surgery that I've had....' kinda metioning it and seeing if they ask me another questions. I wanna tell the world and let people who I know can benefit from WLS that it did and is working for me. If has not been negative in any respect. No one has taken ofense by it I dont pu**** on anyone. I only answer the questions asked, so not to ofend them ..
Anyone else want to tell the world... or having 'hater' issues?
-KIM
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Kim,
I am only 2 weeks out, but it is not uncommon for others to be jealous by your change. I have had several friends who have gone through this procedure and it has been a shock to others around them when the loss becomes very noticable. There have been comments made to them such as "you took the easy way out" (yeah right), and other negative remarks. I think (unfortuantly) it is human nature to be jealous of those who succeed when they have not. It is unfortuante that they don't provide praise and support for a job well done instead of comparing themselves to you. I have friends where husbands have left them, family members quit speaking to them and friends deserted them due to the changes in their diet and the self-esteem that is gained from the loss.
Be true to who you are and if others reject that, it is their loss and they weren't true friends to begin with.
It is truly sad that all can't rejoice with someone else's success.
Take Care,
Terri
Terri,
Luckily, the woman who made the comment is not someone who I am friends with, she is a past co-worker/superior. I know there will always be negative people. But I guess me knowing I did the most healthiest choice for my life is the only thing that counts.
Hopefullly, not to be catty but she went home yesterday and looked in the mirror and maybe I inspired a change for her health. Have a great day all.
-KIM
Dear Kim
I go through the same thing at work all the time. One woman who is big said to me I thought you would have lost more weight by now. I was like are you kidding me I lost 100 lbs. In 6 months!!!!!!!! People are funny like that always trying to put you down when you are up. Keep up the great job you are doing and you look great!!!!!!!! I would like to yell from the rooftops about my WLS I tell anyone anything they would like to know and I don't care what they think. I am happy I have a wounderful family and I am healthy now then I was 10 years ago.
Lynn
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