Hi people, Long time no see

Hi guys, How are you all doing? I am just going through tough times in my life. So I didnt get a chance to drop by. Well here is the update, well my dotor finally admitted I am just one of those people whose wont have such a great weight loss. (Something I was always afraid of) So my nightmares have really come true. I went through surgery only to lose a little not what I wanted to know nor hear. My hubby is acting up and causing mayhem. I just love my life. It doesn't end there; I found out how my in laws were really like(nasty And now the only light I see in my life is my 2 angels who keep me going from one day to another. I am just a little upset. Hey but the upside is I am more active than before. I have not drank soda since july 04. And atleast I am down a couple of pounds. but I came down from morbidly obese to severly obese. my husband and his family think I am the one wrong on every matter. If I want to stand up for what is right, is it so worng of me? Is it wrong of me to speak for my rights as a woman, as a mother, as a wife? Well getting out of my stupid emotions and feelings, how is everyone else doing? Tkae care, Mandee

Hey there Mandeep! As from reading your post I think (and please don't get mad) YOUR HUSBAND AND HIS FAMILY ARE ALL JERKS AND HE DOSN'T DESERVE TO HAVE A WONDERFUL WoMAN LIKE YOU IN HIS LIFE!!!!!!! Ok now with that said I am so sad that you are feeling the way you are feeling. Please keep your chin up. Why in God's name did doc say something like that to you. I would go and get another doctors opinion. What was the reasoning for the doc to say that. Listen Mandeep if you ever need me I am here and so are the rest of us. We love you here Mandeep and always will! Keep your chin up please! Sending lots of {{{HUHS}} & 's your way. You are a very special person Mandeep and don't let anyone ever tell you any different!!!!!!! :wave{{{HUGS}} 247/137/past goal

Mandeep, Hun it is nice to see you posting even though you are not having the best time right now......~hugs you~ I have to agree with Evelyn, why are they being suck jerks to you? Hun you hang on and do what is BEST of YOU and your KIDS!!! what ever that may be!!! I would also go to see another Dr., not sure why it does not "work" for you as from what the Dr said. I can not imagine that! Hun we are all here for you so if you need to just vent we are here and if you would like to chat just send me an email..........~hugs you tight~ Best of luck! Debra P

Hi Debra hope you're feeling well. You have mail from me. Gladys

Mandee, It is unfortuante that you have someone in your life who is so mean. I lived that for 13 years and ended it about 11 years ago. I have been married to my Prince for the past 10 years. He would never ever think about saying something like that. Do not fall victim to others stupidity or thoughtlessness. You are a valuable person. Do not ALLOW anyone to make you feel less of a person. Somehow these people have their own issues in their life and you are their scapegoat. I'm not sure why a doctor would give you such nonsense. Don't give in to what others are saying. You need to follow what is best for you. terri

Hi Mandee I'm so sorry that you're going through tough times. But always remember that trouble don't last always. It is not wrong of you to stand up for what is right. Stand strong and be encouraged, hold on and don't give up. We your OH family are here for you. Anytime you feel you need to talk, feel free to email me anytime. Much and {{{hugs}}} Glenda

Mandee~~ Sorry that your going through so much right now. Please make an appointment with your PCP and discuss your feelings with him. You sound depressed which happens sometime after WLS. You should not have to suffer, there are meds that your dr can give you. You are not alone, we are here to help you. You said that......""I am just one of those people whose won't have such a great weight loss""........Please explain to us what amount your dr said you can expect to lose and why. Thanks and I hope that today will be a much better day for you.

Well My wiehgt loss goal was 135 lbs according to the doctor. He said looking at weight loss and how its going, I will not be able to lose more than 80-95 lbs. I have lost 50lbs in 6 months. I know its a big improment thna before but looking at myself I know I can do more loss. I am looking into some herbal weight loss stuff. Even though I know it wont work, just maybe it may boost me up a little. I know I am depressed but going through what I been through, I think if it were not for my culture and my beliefs, I would have smacked this man and his family out of their houses. Mandee

Mandee ~~ Well a Big Congraulations on losing 50 lbs in 6 months!! Why don't you make another appointment with your surgeon and discuss this matter with him. You are only 6 months post-op!!! As you already know---everyone loses weight at a different rate-- as long as we follow our drs food plan and be more active and exercise---you will lose the weight...it might be at a slower rate. Maybe reaching a goal weight of 135 lbs may not be a realistic one. Before you spend money on any products, is your drs food plan easy for you to follow and are you having any difficulty with eating any foods. Are you able to get in all the water, it's very important. Maybe we all can give you some eating ideas to help you along. Let us know what is giving you any problems. You must think about YOU right now, you had major surgery to get a healthier and happier life.

Mandee, Congratulations on losing 50 pounds! That's awesome. Remember, it's 50 that you're not carrying around anymore. I'm not losing as quickly as my Dr. would like but everyone is different. So far, I'm down 80. Back in January I was only down 54.