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Post-op blues

mariad
on 2/22/05 2:28 am - S. Ozone Park, NY
Hi everyone I'm feeling down today. I've been lock in my house and can't seem to go out unless someone is with me. When I ask someone to take me out, they are too tried or too busy. As for my friends alot of them seem to have forgetton my name. Now that I'm losing weight. It seems I'm losing them. These are people claim to be support of me I'm still having pains. I really can't wait until the rest of these staples come out. Because they are bothering me. I can't sleep well. And as for eating I'm not. I'm lucky if I can get one shake in, let alone the other one I have to take. I'm not taking in enough protein. It's funny I read everyone else's post op message and a lot of you are doing great. Some of you have even went back to work. I'm so happy for all of you. I don't have a job. I haven't had a full time job in over a year. So I'm looking forward to getting one. When I was at the Cori Center my mother told this lady [I forgot her name] I was a Medical Assistant. The girl respond "Why don't you have a job? Are you lazy?" I so anger and hurt at that comment. I just look at her and said "No. It's seem no one wanted to hire me." She only made a face at me. That was a week again and that comment still bothers me. I know why I haven't got a job as a Medical Assistant or even full time Phlebotomist. Because I'm fat. Let's face the facts. Most employment place don't like to hire fat people. And when they do they try to hind us or make us work crazy hours. I"m not a lazy person. In fact just about every employer I had in the past always give a excellent reference about me. But you know what bothers me the most is I have a fear that when I start looking for work again I'll face the same BS about being fat. I really want and need to work. Maybe it's just fears or the blues. But I'm really sad today. Please just keep me in prayer that I won't fall into a depression. Thank you
Evelyn L.
on 2/22/05 2:53 am - Harrison, NY
RNY on 05/20/04 with
Oh Maria I am sending lots of {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} and 's your way! I am so sorry you are feeling down. Don't worry this is normal to, it happened to me too. As for the comment she should have never said that! That was very very rude and shame on her!!!!!!! Ya know what, I know what you mean about not being hired because of the weight, people like that need to take a step abck and see that overweight people have feelings too. If you cut us we really do bleed too. (JERKS) Don't worry Maria things will get better ...Honest! We are always here for you and always will be so please feel these great big {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} and 's Love ya always Maria! {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} Evelyn 247/137/past goal
kathy M.
on 2/22/05 3:25 am - west babylon, ny
hey maria, I understand what your going through. Just e patient and you'll be sooooo happy soon. I had my surgery Dec 6th and I lost 60lbs so far. i feel so good and everyday just gets better. Hang in there.
shea02
on 2/22/05 4:33 am - Long Island, NY
hi maria i am so sorry you are having a down day. i was one of the unlucky ones who's recovery was anything but wonderful and it took me 3 months (actually until last week) to feel like halfway ok again. it is a very difficult process we go through and trying on our patience and emotions. keep your head up. take it from me it WILL get better!! i promise!! as for the rude b****.... don't let somone as ignorant as that take up any more of your thoughts or time. we know who you are inside and love you for it. muah! shea if you need anything please feel free to email me ok?? =)
krbmusician
on 2/22/05 5:50 am - Brooklyn, NY
Sorry you're feeling down Maria. Things will get better soon. It's too bad that some people don't think before they speak, and they don't realize that their words can be so hurtful. I know it's hard, particularly when you want to rip someone's head off for saying something stupid, but (if I may give you some friendly feedback) just let it go. It's been a week and I understand that sort of thing isn't easy, but she's not even thinking about you, so why let her stress you out? Just concentrate on getting better and taking care of yourself. Things will be better soon. All the best, Karen
mariad
on 2/22/05 6:14 am - S. Ozone Park, NY
Thank you all for your responds and [[[[hugs.]]]] It's good to know I'm not the only person going or has gone threw this. I"m hanging in there and just taking one day at a time. Beside tomorrow is another day right? So hopefully it will be better God bless you all Maria
(deactivated member)
on 2/22/05 9:37 pm - MT
Maria, Hun I am sorry to hear you are having a bad time right now and I am still pre-op so I can not say how good things will get but from what I have read here at the board it seems that most people go through this bad/sad time after their surgery......~tight hugs~ As will anything, it takes time and it WILL get better for you......Just think about how good you will be feeling and looking before long....... Hun if you need to chat just let me know and I will send my numbers, life can be crazy at times and you just need someone to talk to, to help you get through some times.........Please take the advice of the others here, just ingnore the rude people, we all have come accross them and I am sure we always will. People should just look through other eyes but their own sometimes and things might be different. Hun take care and know that we are ALL here for you...... Debra
Melissa Mermaid
on 2/23/05 12:30 am - Westbury, NY
You've got a flood of emotions going on -- in a large part due to the after-effects of surgery. Don't project about anything else, just concentrate right this second on getting stronger. I quit my extremely exciting job in 2003 due to health issues (I chose not to go the disability route) and I am grateful that I am not obligated to a job at this point in time because I am able to concentrate on getting stronger and designing what the rest of my life will be, one day at a time. There are some financial issues but no one is holding a gun to my head. So don't think about tomorrow. Think about today and being all you can be one day at a time. Lots of hugs and warm thoughts.
mariad
on 2/23/05 1:51 am - S. Ozone Park, NY
HI I seem to be feeling alittle better today. I'm trying to move around more. I'm hoping tomorrow my mother will take me out of this house. She has off tomorrow and maybe we can go walking around the mall or something.
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