How Did You Prepare?

Hello Fellow AMOSERS I have so many questions, BUT I will ask one @ a time..LOL I have debated with myself time again and again over the surgery. Although, I feel it will save my life, and I am leaning towards having it. I would like to know how did any one of you get mentally prepare for the surgery? I myself thought seeing a therapist before, I make my final decision would help, but I am not really sure...so any input on this question would be greatly appreciated and thanks to all in advance. *smoochies* ~NEVER SURRENDER~ ~T~

hi TT First you have to decide what surgery is right for you, go to seminars and check out your surgeon's meet them and feel comfortable with them, only you can make the decision to have wls...but you have already gave the best reason to have it....it will save your life..... nothing worth having is every easy....so take baby steps with your reseach...... I knew this was what I wanted to do....with all the dieting I have done....I just couldn't get the insurance to approve me...until now..... I look forward to have surgery and being on the losing side... I am not nervious, but who knows what I'm going to feel on Sunday....the night before.....but I feel this is the best thing that I could do to share time with my family, right now I'm just there and not involved with playing and running and all the things you see people doing with the family....I WANT TO BE INVOLOVED... one more thing this journey is and emotional roller-coaster......so pre pared yourself for many mixed feelings...and the best of luck to you..... Christine

HI TT, my name is Ebony, and am fairly new to this site, but love it.i, like yourself, am from the Bronx, and considering surgery.(actually, i've already decided to have it) I just want to thank u for your your candid profile, as it really relieved me to see people be straight up about being big. I also wanted to address your question; I really don't think that there is a set way to prepare your self mentally for something like this. I myself was absolutely terrified at the idea of having surgery, until I began to look at my situation........i'm young, resilient, vivacious, smart.......but almost 400lbs. I knew that after trying EVERY DIET in and out the book, that i needed to do something to change my life, and that decision first came about , by me changing my MIND. I stopped thinking about all of the negative things that could happen, and started focusing on all the good that will come out of me having this surgery. I can play w/ my kids, run, fit nicer clothes, ride amusement park rides, and all of that. Not only that, but i'll be setting myself up to live a longer, healthier life, and i think that those r the things that u have 2 think about. I prayed for God to show me direction, because i did struggle w/ the decision at first, but he allowed me to see that he wants me to be happy, and healthy, and thriving. He gave DR'S. the knowlege to perform these types of procedures in order to help people in our situation. I know that it is difficult....i understand, but i say to u, if u ever need a hand to walk WITH U through this.............I am here, going through the same process. I just found the surgeon that i want myself so.......be encouraged and know that there's a sister out there going through the same thing........I know you'll do what's best for you!!! GOD BLESS YOU EBONY