Husband vent

First off I'm doing great, food doesn't bother me and I haven't had any cravings. I understand it can be hard for a significant other, to know how to behave with food around someone after wls. But this is driving me crazy!! First, when I came home from the hospital, he didn't want to eat at all in front of me. I kept telling him that I was fine! It did not bother me and still doesn't! He finally got past that. Now we can't go out anywhere because it would bother him, that I was just sitting there while he ate. I told him that I could get soup or something. So now we can never go out and have a good time because I can't eat like normal. I am really missing eating at this moment because if I could eat we could have a good time. I just want to cry! Beth

Hey "Slimer than me". It will come in time. Just think of the clothes you can buy with the money you are saving on going out to dinner. You can always bring Mathew over for a play date. Love Tammy L

I started going out very early as a post-op, even a simple stop at the Chinese restaurant. I'd eat the broth from won ton soup or egg drop soup and do it slowly to keep him company. At an Italian restaurant you can nibble on fresh mozzerella. If you really think about it there are choices to be made almost anywhere. My first "meal" was a scrambled egg with cheese melted over it at a diner. This was the day of my 2 week check-up. I was totally "normal" looking. See if you can lure him out and if you can, think ahead so you can just order quickly without making it seem like a big deal. Good luck. Once my husband's food comes at a restaurant I could be naked and he wouldn't notice. LOL!!!

Beth, Hi there. I'm not sure how my hubby will react to the changes and me not eating (as much) with him. I don't think it will bother him. But I'm not sure. Won't be long till I find out. In the mean time, I wonder if your husband will eventually get used to how your eating habits have changed. It is an adjustment and maybe he just needs alittle more time. I got my date yesterday and my surgery is scheduled for Jan. 10th. We really should get together before then. Take care and have a good weekend, Melva

Hi Beth, It WILL get better!!! I went through the same thing, and now that I am almost 9 months out, it doesnt bother me abit. I go out, order a meal, eat what I can, and bring the rest home. The first time that I ate out, I went to Quacks, had a cup of chili, and could'nt even eat it all, but it was good, and it did'nt bother me that everyone else with me was eating a large meal. Keep your chin up hun, it DOES get easier!!! Charl -123 pounds

Hi Beth Let me give it to you from a guy's point of view, I went through the same thing as you are going through right now. My family would not even say anything about food in front of me when I came home for the first few months, it took them a long time before they would even eat in front of me even after I told them time and time again it was not a problem for me to see them eat. What I would do is eat before them and then get away from the table and let them eat by themselves so they thought I was not being bothered by them eating. Then I would walk back in the room after a few minutes and sit and just start talking about anything and before you know it they didnt even know I was there. It will get easier to go out and have dinner with family and friends the farther out you get but it does take time. I will be 22 months on Sunday the 19th and it is still sometimes hard for me to eat out so what I always do is get soup, that always works for me and then I would pick at something of theres and I am good to go. SO just hang in there and like the other poster said just think of all the cloths you can buy and YOU WILL NEED TO after all the weight you will lose and money you are saving from not going out at this point in time. I know I did buy a few and still am and love it all the time. Happy Holidays Tony Lap Rny Distal 02/19/03 420/213/DONE and loving it Plastic Surgery 06/02/04 15 1/2lbs Removed

Hi eth, im 4 months out and still have problems with eating as a family. first off all, although my husand said he would support me and eat whatever i made. I see him gorging himslef and gaining the wait i lose. I didnt go to buffetts for a while, now i will go and eat the one thing i can and think or mind that im not getting my monies worth. im eating healthly as much less.my husband seems to be over eating and it hurts to watch him do that.I now see how unhealty our eating habits and potion sizes were evey time i sit across the table from him.I sure hope this gets better for you. Happy Holidays! All the Best!Tracey