Coming back to OH

Hi all,  Well I am coming back to hopefully get myself back on track.  I have gained 43 pounds back from my lowest weight,  and now find myself back in the OBESE category.  I am not happy.  Our local gastric bypass support groups and center of excellence has been terminated for about a year now.  Waiting for a new department to open up.  We have no place around here to go to,  and even our Doctors are dispersed as far as I know.  Its extremely frustrating at times and I beat myself up everyday for letting myself get so far off track.  I have joined weigh****chers within the past month or so,  and since have gained 3 pounds instead of loosing.  Seems the harder I try the worse it gets and the faster I gain. 

I am also in the beginning stages of menopause, I know TMI,  but I think it makes a huge difference in metabolism.  My body hurts, muscles, and joints,  so at times its hard just to walk any distance at all.  No excuses,  just how it is. 

How many others are having these issues since surgery?  My date is 11/29/05. 

Myself and my daughter who has also had RNY,  are both also having issues with HYPOGLYCEMIA,  hers is way worse and is seeking help,  it has become very serious and dangerous issue for her.  Mine is just occasionally acting up. 

I would also like to hear from those who were on the forums back then and see how they are doing now so many years out since surgery. 
 

First - don't beat yourself up.  Yes, you fell off the wagon, but you CAN just pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and continue on this journey.

Are there any other surgeons you can visit?  Even if it's a couple hour drive, you're doing it for YOU.  You went through all this in the beginning, a few hours is nothing now....

As for hypoglycemia - yes, there is a percentage (don't know what it is) that get this.  Again, a surgeon would be better to advise you - or even an endocrynologist.

You CAN do this!  Just take it one meal at a time - success will breed more success!

you know dr. cole or the support meeting never told us about this reactive hypoglycemia. i have it too. sometimes me and the bed are soak and wet. i know what u mean there is no one to help us..
our drs left us hanging. not very good..i am now between 138 and 140 pounds. so i have lost some but the scale goes up and down. anita

I did hear that they are going to open soon again,  or maybe they already have.  But I have not been contacted at all to let me know of this.  I only found out from a client of mine who is a nurse at Arnot.  I do know that Dr. Cole is still practicing in Bath, NY.  I think more of in a general practice I think.  I am assuming my paperwork is stil with Arnot,  as I didnt know who to have it sent to.

At my lowest 147,  I felt great,  looked great except for the typical excess skin.  But maybe factors are the cause of my 43 pound gain.  At 2 years out,  I started working for myself and was scared and stressed,  my father was dying with a very fast cancer,  we bought a  house and built on an addition to put my shop in,  and now work from home by myself for many many hours a day sitting on my butt, then some serious health issues with my daughter,  etc.  So,  I know I am stress eating,  or letting cravings drive my crazy til I give in.  I eat very late at night due to my work schedule,  and I do  not get an exercise, and I am in perimenopause.  I know these are all excuses,  but they are the reasons I can think of that I let myself get off track.  I need to find my way out,  I am tired of hurting all the time and looking and feeling very uncomforable in my own skin and clothes. 

I will conquer this,  I just have to find my inner strength to get me there again. 

 its so hard to eat right. now that halloween is here i have been eating candy. i dont ever buy junk food. yes dr. cole is in bath,ny. i kno my records went to my normal doctor. i smoke also. i am trying to slow down my drs nurse never calls me back to get on something for smoking. i just had a break that lasted 2 years. so now is not a good time to quit but i will try. 

 HI Shannon,

WELCOME BACK!!!!!

What you have noted is very common (regain).  

So sorry to hear that you do NOT have a support group available to attend.  I hope this changes and soon.  You may want to consider beginning your own.  OH has a FREE training program that has lots of info and will help you along with access to the OH SGL FORUM with suggested handouts and all types of ideas on how to run meetings, etc.

ALWAYS remember that ACCOUNTABILITY+SUPPORT=SUCCESS!!!!

Here's a poem that I found on OH several years ago that has helped me and I hope it helps you too!

Good luck on your journey and keep in touch!

START OVER!
If you've started out in pursuit of your goal
And you've really tried with your heart and your soul,
but somehow things got out of control ---
START OVER.
When you've tried your best to do what you should
And you thought this time that you surely would,
But once again, you didn't do good ---
START OVER.
When you've worked so hard to follow a dieter's way
And you fought to win a victory each day
But one more time you went astray ---
START OVER.
When you've tried so hard to yourself to be true
And do the things that you know you should do
But once again you failed to come through ---
START OVER.
When the road to success seemed much too long
And each temptation was oh so strong
And once again you gave in to wrong ---
START OVER.
When you've told your friends what you planned to do
And trusted them to help you through
But soon discovered it's up to you ---
START OVER.
When you know you must be physically fit,
But your hope seems gone and you're stuck in a pit
That's not the time for you to quit ---
START OVER.
When the week seems long and successes few
And at weigh-in time you're feeling blue
Remember tomorrow is just for you ---
START OVER.
To start again means a victory's been won
And starting over again means a race well run
And starting over again proves it can be done
So don't just sit there ---
START OVER. 

 maryellen,
i cant find this oh sgl forum. where is it? i need to stop eating this halloween candy and get back to where i was. anita

I was a very very heavy smoker once upon a time 2 1/2 to 3 packs a day.  I quit in 2002 before I went to Cosmetology schooling,  and I knew I eventually would like to get the RNY,  and I wanted to have that out of my life before hand.  I am still NOT smoking.  I dont want them anymore and never ever have cravings for cigarettes thank God.  I used the patch,  but first had to get in the right mindset to be able to let go of a lifelong friend and say good bye forever.  It was my biggest vice controlling me at the time,  besides food.  Maybe thats what I need to do to look at bad foods in this same way,  I think I just had an Ah Ha moment.  Im gonna try to look at my trigger foods this way and say goodbye forever,  and if only I could keep my husband from wanting them and having them in my face.  Plus I have a closet full of great clothes that I cannot fit into anymore.  I am on a mission.

Thank You MaryEllen!!!  Thats a great poem.  I would love another support group,  and we did have one here til the program shut down,  but even the last year or so that it was available,  I could not attend,  due to my high volume of regular clients that I have accumulated since going into business myself.  I have a salon in my home,  and a good share of my clients have to come evenings,  and our closest meeting was right within that time frame.  I would love to have a weekend Saturday morning meeting say once or twice a month.  That would be awesome. 

This is another reason why I have not started a workout program,  is my time constraints,  I work 4 days a week 8:30 or 9:00 am til around 7:30 or 8:00.  I am too tired and have to make dinner by the time I am done working.  I could not go work out then come home and make dinner,  I wouldnt be eating until 10pm.  And mornings,  I have enough time to get around, get the shop ready,  make coffee etc.  I really need another good 6 hours in a day,  to get done what I need to and have time for me.