"Life is so much better when we shed the victim thinking and simply choose the path of...

In looking for a different article I ran across this; given the many challenges life brings to people, given the inherent desire for control and given what we can not control having the willingness and ability to be self responsible and accountable may be all we have...I am posting this for anyone such as myself that can get stuck in the victim role..there is another way....I am grateful for this!

The Path of Personal Accountability
By Janean G. Hall http://www.bsciresourcecenter.com/proddetail.php?prod=FAPersonalAcountability
"Life is so much better when we shed the victim thinking and simply choose the path of personal accountability."-John G. Miller

The Victim
Our society is full of victim thinking. How can we possibly serve those around us -- and ourselves -- when we're so busy playing the victim? Negative questions don't solve any problems! Nothing positive or productive comes from asking them. These questions also imply that someone else is responsible for the problem and for coming up with a solution.
These are questions like:
Why do I have to do everything?
When are they going to provide me with more help?
Why can't they at least give a free product that would help?

What ever happened to personal accountability?
The best Support Networks will bring out the best in each other, working together the way teams are supposed to, and make great things happen rather than finger-pointing, procrastinating and 'we-theying' ourselves into the ground.

If you want greater accountability around you, start by being more accountable yourself. Being accountable is about figuring out how you can make things better. Other people's actions aren't in your control, and many events aren't in your control either, but your response to these situations and events is completely in your control. You can choose to be 100% accountable and responsible for your response.
While thinking about the challenges you face with accountability in your organization, ask yourself the following questions:

What is my role in this situation?
What am I doing (or not doing) to promote the situation, as it currently exists?
What about this situation is in my control?
What am I thinking?
What are my beliefs?
What can I do to have an impact?
What can I do differently to change the result?

Asking these questions takes courage, because it takes away your ability to blame others. Asking these questions may be hard, because the answers may require work.
Questions that will enable you to choose a path of personal accountability:
What can I do to increase my personal productivity?
What can I do to develop myself?
What can I do to support my weight loss goals?

Choose personal accountability rather than becoming a victim. By walking "The Path to Personal Accountability," we can achieve greater levels of success and excellence in our lives. Reference: "The Power of Personal Accountability", John G Miller
"Personal Accountability", Kevin Eikenberry

All I can say Jamie, is AMEN!!!


You rock,
Amy