The Fine Line Between Assertive and Arrogant
Please Draw it for me 
How do I be assertive and plead my own case without coming across as defeated or out of line?
I need the surgery. I am stuck. I am frustrated with myself...but yet pleased with myself.
I am proud of the fact that I can lose 40 plus lbs in a year...and keep it off. I am happy that I have been successful in changing my eating habits and have changed my lifestyle. Even if I cannot lose the remaining lbs that are "required" I can say that I am successful. However, the thought that I have not met a goal is troubling. No, success is not measured by a weight. But when those doctors give you a weight, you kinda aim for it. I don't like failure. I don't like leaving things undone. Setting unrealistic goals, I have learned why I set them and I have been able to exchange those goals with necessary and appropriate ones. I have come a long way! (sorry to those trying to not think about smoking)
I am not discouraged, I am kinda disappointed, but then again...I am thrilled. Ya know, everyone's body is different. For me, other diets have failed. I have been unsuccessful in keeping weight off. I remember filling out the little packet of info when I first started. They asked me if I have tried dieting. I told them I had tried and that i was unable to keep the weight off, and sometimes unable to lose much weight. In this WHOLE process...if I only lost 5 lbs, it was worth it. However, looking back at other "diets" I can honestly say....I was successful. Each of those diets led me to drop bad habits little by little. Thank God I have never smoked, drank alcohol, chewed tobacco, and I don't have to struggle with those addictions as I also try to lose the weight in preparation of the surgery. If anything, my current struggle to lose the weight is nothing more than proof that I NEED this operation to continue living a healthy life. A busted down car doesn't last long on 3 out of 8 cyl know what I mean vern?
I was addicted to caffeine and especially Dr. Pepper and Mt. Dew. Boy I tell ya...NOBODY had the bedside manner that Dr. Pepper had. He even made it to birthday parties (hahaha)
Anywho, getting serious again, I have been able to identify my triggers. My emotions, thoughts, memories, stress indicators, etc. I have been able to cope with being molested as a boy and not turn to food for comfort. That in itself is worth it all.
Dr. Singh, Schedule me for surgery. I am not asking you, I am strongly recommending myself to you for approval.
here is my last month's diary. It will show my consistency in eating right and exercising. You will see that I have done everything that I could possibly do in the past year to get ready for this. I am determined to make this work. I am as prepared as can be. 3 weeks would be fine with me.
How do I be assertive and plead my own case without coming across as defeated or out of line?
I need the surgery. I am stuck. I am frustrated with myself...but yet pleased with myself.
I am proud of the fact that I can lose 40 plus lbs in a year...and keep it off. I am happy that I have been successful in changing my eating habits and have changed my lifestyle. Even if I cannot lose the remaining lbs that are "required" I can say that I am successful. However, the thought that I have not met a goal is troubling. No, success is not measured by a weight. But when those doctors give you a weight, you kinda aim for it. I don't like failure. I don't like leaving things undone. Setting unrealistic goals, I have learned why I set them and I have been able to exchange those goals with necessary and appropriate ones. I have come a long way! (sorry to those trying to not think about smoking)
I am not discouraged, I am kinda disappointed, but then again...I am thrilled. Ya know, everyone's body is different. For me, other diets have failed. I have been unsuccessful in keeping weight off. I remember filling out the little packet of info when I first started. They asked me if I have tried dieting. I told them I had tried and that i was unable to keep the weight off, and sometimes unable to lose much weight. In this WHOLE process...if I only lost 5 lbs, it was worth it. However, looking back at other "diets" I can honestly say....I was successful. Each of those diets led me to drop bad habits little by little. Thank God I have never smoked, drank alcohol, chewed tobacco, and I don't have to struggle with those addictions as I also try to lose the weight in preparation of the surgery. If anything, my current struggle to lose the weight is nothing more than proof that I NEED this operation to continue living a healthy life. A busted down car doesn't last long on 3 out of 8 cyl know what I mean vern?
I was addicted to caffeine and especially Dr. Pepper and Mt. Dew. Boy I tell ya...NOBODY had the bedside manner that Dr. Pepper had. He even made it to birthday parties (hahaha)
Anywho, getting serious again, I have been able to identify my triggers. My emotions, thoughts, memories, stress indicators, etc. I have been able to cope with being molested as a boy and not turn to food for comfort. That in itself is worth it all.
Dr. Singh, Schedule me for surgery. I am not asking you, I am strongly recommending myself to you for approval.
here is my last month's diary. It will show my consistency in eating right and exercising. You will see that I have done everything that I could possibly do in the past year to get ready for this. I am determined to make this work. I am as prepared as can be. 3 weeks would be fine with me. 
"here is my last month's diary. It will show my consistency in eating right and exercising. You will see that I have done everything that I could possibly do in the past year to get ready for this. I am determined to make this work. I am as prepared as can be." Tim, bring a copy of your post with you to the appointment, and keep the conversation in the "I". What you wrote says it all.
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