Intervention Needed

ok...I will...ty. One way or another....

i dont have anymore... i am sorry.  i too found it on ebay.  it has a diuretic effect, so if your on lasix or hctz then talk to your doc before starting medifast...but it works.  why would they get mad at you???  dont you have to loose the weight on your own??? any diet???  good luck.  it is so hard, i feel for you!!!

I am waiting to hear from my doctor. I told him I need a muscle relaxer, antibiotic (bronchitis) and some kind of lasix or something...at a lower dosage...

Hello Tim!



The way one could consider viewing the ''intervention needed'' would be to not allow a scale/hunkametal to have ANY control over a persons thoughts, feelings or actions. There in lies a simple yet challenging option to consider for us all!



Humor is a good coping tool as long as we really do not allow it to cover up totally our true emotions (be it fear, anger, frustration, sadness etc); because if true emotions are numbed/avoided they tend to build up and pop out in a manner sometimes less useful.



We all have choices and we can choose to allow the scale to have total control and give our power away to it, or we can choose to keep our power and reframe what the goal really may be, what we truly want and how we will react to best meet that helpfully! All we truly have control over is our reactions to life and issues. I have found when I accept this I tend to be happier and have less stress. Afterall we can only influence the hunkametal so much...



As Amy has so kindly written this is but one of the MANY challenges that lies ahead on this journey of rebirth. It is an opportunity to embrace and learn from if you so choose,





My only other parting wisdom would be, when I try so hard to control a situation for MY DESIRED outcome (usually perfection as I see it) at MY desired pace, things never seem to happen in a way that is best. I get frustrated for sure! But i have discovered over and over again when I let go (and for myself let God) I am pleasantly suprised to find that things work out for the best beyond my wildest imagination! So when I can I surrender (sometimes to the scale) and strive for excellence (not perfection) and trust that things will work out as they should in the right time (not my timeline!) It is a lesson I still work on daily....



Ultimately, it's up to us to stop scale obsession. Weight loss takes time and we need to be patient and remember, if we are following a healthy lifestyle plan the extra pounds will come off -- whether we step on the scale a hundred times a day or never at all!~



I hope this can help, I do appreciate the challenges you describe and want to validate them as I think so many of us have them (I know I have been there, done that and done it again and again!) It is difficult at times, darn right maddening! Feel the feelings and they will pass and then the scale gets no power! And you win!



Use Measurements Besides the ScaleWhat's So Motivating About Numbers Anyway? By Mike Kramer, Staff Writer http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/motivation_articles.asp?id=104



Why The Scale Lies by Renee Cloe,

http://www.primusweb.com/fitnesspartner/library/weight/scale.htm



Scale back on weighing in?

Dieters should think twice about how -- and how often -- they check their weight

Kimberly Hayes Taylor / The Detroit News

January 24, 2006

http://www.detnews.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060124/LIFESTYLE02/601240395/1040/rss34&template=printart



Weighing in on the Scale

http://www.calorieking.com/library/article.php?path=13%2C66&art_id=749&printable=yes&noviews=yes

Pat Fiducia and Anna Delany, September 22nd, 2004













My newest trick is to just notice things in my life vs judging them and learn to say "SO WHAT" and move forward, it has freed me from so much guilt and shame that served no helpful purpose in my life it was only keeping me stuck in self sabotage! Maybe trying that can help! ?
Stress is one factor we forget to influence and that can hamper wt loss! Meditation, guided imagery, prayer, journaling/blogging, reading, music, non compulsive exercise, supportive converstaions, relaxation/deep breathing, affirmations, etc can all influence lowering our stress and stress hormones that can play a role in our wt!....

Jamie, but how do you get that through the NUT's head? I mean...she was downright aweful to me. If all this what you are saying is accurate and good....then WHY oh WHY did she blast me from here to china for not having SCALE SUCCESS? I felt BETTER about that weigh in than I did about ANY previous weigh in. I, for the first time was confident that I was even closer to the operation and my lifestyle was so much healthier. I brought my wife along because I was expecting to hear about a date to meet with Dr. Singh. My wife works midnights and she was exausted as we went along. Otherwise I would not have brought her. (drat...there goes the guilt complex) I don't blame anyone for not having all the weight off. I don't blame anyone for how I feel. I hate to say this...but I am losing hope. Not the desire to succeed....just...the ability to hope. My whole life hope has been deferred.  The Bible says "hope deferred maketh the heart sick; but when desire cometh it is a wellspring of life." Anticipation is a terrible disposition. Whatever happens happens sounds so despondent. *sigh* Looking on the bright side, I have an appointment with Carrie on Wed. Whether I lose the weight or not....I will accept my weight and any chewing out I get with dignity....(meaning I will wait til I get to the car and then cry )

Tim:
I personally have discovered to the contrary (not despondence at all) but great strength and hope through surrender and acceptance of what is/whatever happens/happens (even if it is not fair or what I think is right/best). My view is not right or wrong it is just my view and one way to wrap one's brain around things, thinking it is despondent is not wrong it is just another way to view a situation.

When I let go of trying to figure things out and instead just 'go with the flow' that is success to me, not failure at all; it means I am authentic and being with myself in the MOMENT! When we try so hard to figure things out we miss so much (life and our self/spirit IMHO)

If we believe that there is no controlling others (i.e. getting things through the NUTs head) only our reaction to them (I will sabotage self/quit/give up or perservere and move forward/gain strength in character and have a great opportuintity to ride out frustration embracing it to make me a strong/healthy person etc as it surely will not be easier down the road at all).

Sometimes we try and figure out the whys (why did she blast me), when what the message/lesson is or maybe has nothing to do with the why and only in the what. In this instance we may not know now or ever why this is happening; but it is happening, perhaps the message is you are not quite ready, the timing is not quite right, there are a few more things to work through to make it the best time, the right time.

Ok that may not be it either but it surely won't happen if we respond in a giving up manner, and maybe that is what is supposed to happen I do not know the plans for your life. Or maybe it is about overcoming obstacles and growth and in due time (not your time or my time but God's time) that will happen. These things in our lives are truly IMHO called in purposely/placed in front of us, and we are never given more than we can handle.

If you feel you are being treated badly, then maybe this is about setting boundaries? I do not know, maybe it is about standing up for yourself in an assertive manner not an aggressive one or passive one (taking it out on self), maybe if you feel it you can say something about what you need from the NUT and what would be helpful to you, what is not acceptaple to you etc.

You are worthy of respect, you are an intelligent and precious person, when I feel that myself I can expect that of others, when I feel like a piece of crap others will treat me as such because that is how I am treating me.

Jamie who is trying to go through life just noticing and not reacting only being! Be well Tim...You have come so far, the choice is yours to turn back or move forward! I trust you will have all the hope, faith, to do what is your path and process.....

Proverbs 27:6  Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. thank you Jamie Sometimes it is hard to determine ones motives....especially when it is said from a professional point of view and not from that of a friend. I have also determined that one should not draw conclusions when under the influence of a head cold/bronchitis I will have this weight off. I am MORE than a conqueror!

OK, Tim, here's the deal: YOU DO THE BEST YOU CAN DO WITH WHAT YOU ARE GIVEN. I'd like to recommend that you NOT kill yourself at the gym with unrealistic exercise goals.   Start off with 30 minutes every other day.  Gradually work up to an hour every other day.   This does two things.  First, you don't feel like a failure if you poop out before the unrealistic three hours is up.   Second, you won't hurt yourself by straining your poor joints. Next, don't let that inanimate object (the scale) rule your life.   Eliminate ALL white foods from your diet.   Try various protein drink samples (available from bariatriceating.com) to find ones that you can stomach. Eat well-balanced light meals at night (South Beach or Weigh****chers has some good meal plans).  Use the South Beach or Kashi LTC protein bars for snacks. When you meet your nut, look her in the eye and tell her truthfully that you are doing the best you can.  Don't let her guilt-trip you.   Hang in there, Dude!

 

 

Quote of the Day
"Don't let other people tell you what you want."
- Pat Riley

Hi Tim, I don't have anything to say that those above me haven't...I just want to thank you for sharing your journey with us.  BTW, how do you get your avitar to do all that cool stuff?  I can barely get a regular photo up. Be well,