Butt chewed out an d Head on A Platter

So I go to see the nut today. I know I have not lost allot of weight since the last visit but come on folks.....I have had a tough couple of weeks. I have set the world's record for falling on ice, snow, snowbanks, stairs, and even stumbled down a few steps of an escalator. So anyway, I STILL LOST weight. I am now exactly 10 lbs from my pre-op target weight. I have not been cheating on my diet. I have not been binging. I have not been starving myself. I have been doing good. Anywho, so I go in to see the NUT and she lays into me....I mean...she let me have it. Telling my I was not going to make it...I would not succeed after the operation....yada yada yada. My wife was with me and my wife afterwards said that the NUT was a real "winner." for 5 plus months I have been working out in the pool. NOTHING was said about it. Today, she says that pool exercise is not the best....and that I should use the treadmill or bike. DUH.....MY KNEES and Legs can't handle it....which is why for the past 5 stinkin months I have done POOL workout...and YOU NEVER SAID ANYTHING AGAINST IT! Last visit...I told her I was taking protein shakes. No problem 2 months ago. Now.....oh, NOW all hell breaks loose..."protein shakes are not good for you....we are a non-protein suppliment program. If you continue to take them, we may consider dropping you from the program" I kept hearing that "threat" today. "we may drop you from the program".... Yeah....it is MY fault for not having all of my weight off by today. Yeah....it is ALL my fault for being this big as it is. It is all my fault...I get it....but COME ON!!! I have lost about 45 pounds the HARD WAY in less than a year. Do I hear any praise? NO. Do I hear any encouragement? NO. Do I get any support? NO. ALL I got was my head handed to me on a platter.....and no garnish to go with it...... I am mad. I am not "provoked to lose the weight...." I am provoked to telling a certain NUT what I really think. She got on my case because she has not gotten bloodwork since may of 2007...... HOW IN GOD'S GREEN EARTH IS THAT MY FAULT? I go to the lab......tell them who and where to send the results.....it is out of my hands..... Even at ALB MED lab.....I get the bloodwork done....and have them send the results to my primary and then to the Bariatric program. How is it MY FAULT that they don't have it? ARGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH  so from now on....I am going to work out at the REGULAR part of the gym...even if it damages my knees. I am going to go back on my PERFECTIONIST/Unrealistic diet.... keep a journal....of both exercise and diet..... EVEN THEN....She reassured me that I might die on the table.... you know.....somehow she is as worse as STEPHANIE.....

Tim....I am so sorry to hear that you did not get the date your were expecting.  I am not sure why the last few pounds will not come off for you.  DO NOT GIVE UP!!!!!!!  You can do this.  I never thought that I would have been able to do it and LOOK I did.  I will alsways be here to chat with if needed.  Do not go hurting your body at the gym.  Maybe you need to try a different kind os diet.  I did very well with the 1200 cal.  Just a suggestion.   TAKE CARE Bridgit

I think you should write a letter to the nutritionist's office outlining your distress and your struggle and how demeaned you felt at your visit with this doctor. Based on your story, it sounds like the nutritionist was very inappropriate and unprofessional. In the very least, the nutritionist will be educated on the fact that her response to you was perceived as hostile and not helpful.

Don't harm yourself just because you feel harmed by somebody's insensitivity. You've done so well up till now. This is a learning process and being angry or punishing to yourself will not help you in any way. Just keep doing what you know is healthful and right. You will learn, you will beome more skilled at conscious nutrition and way of life.

Keep on keeping on.

Amy

Hi Tim,   Keep up the good work!!! You have done a great job on losing your weight!!! I know the NUT that you are taking about. She had the same ATTITUDE the last time I saw her. I see her again in March and if she treats me the same I will be changing  I doubt if the Dr knows the way she speakes to his patients. Just remember you are paying her and she can be replaced. At the end of my visit with her she asked if I had any questions. Of course, I did but I wasn't going to ask her,to give her the chance to jump down my throat AGAIN. When I got home I was mad at myself for letting her treat me that way. She will not get a second chance with that attitude. She will treat me with respect next time. Hang in there!!!! 

Don't get me wrong...I was without excuse for not losing more weight than 1.5 lbs in a month. But, then again, I HAVE been retaining water this week, I HAVE fallen about 6 times last week on the ice. I HAVE cheated a bit off my diet, but only like 2 days out of the month...and that was not by much. I am not blaming the NUT for my lack of weight gain....however, IMO, she is comparing me with others...and that is a NO-NO. Yesterday, and today, I am battling a head cold. I don't feel good. I didn't feel good. That may have clouded my judgment. My wife was with me and that may have damaged my ego...being chewed out in front of her. That may have clouded my judgment. I will let this one slide and I will forgive her and chalk it up as her trying to motivate me. Shucks, if God can forgive me, I can forgive others right?

Isn't it amazing how some people (whether they are professionals or not) can sit there and judged people and not give them a word of encouragement, a word of praise, or an "atta boy".  I guess that's what happens what happens to people that are born skinny and are forever skinny and don't have one inkling or ounce of compassion for people like use.  They can't see past their skinny noses to see how hard it is for us.  Not just on a day to day basis but an hour to hour minute to minute basis! Someone wrote you previously and said you might try to write a letter.  I agree with her.  You NUT is a NUT!!!  She is not a compassionate person and should not be dealing with people that have struggles.  Obviously we have struggles because it is just soooo easy to eat whatever we want and get fat but it is a struggle to do EVERYTHING right to get the surgery of a life time to help us IN our life. Good luck but don't do anything that is going to damage you!

That shrink is lucky that it was you and not me sitting there. I would probably asked her what weed she was smoking and where she got her degree. Then I would probably have told her where to go with a smile and then walked out the door. Most of the people I have met with that hashad the surgery will tell you along with most of the surgeons is that in order to lose the weight you do high protein foods, cut out the junk food and exercise. You can lose weight in a pool because I lost 30 myself.So I wish you a good luck and after you have the surgery call the shrink and say you just wanted to say you didn't die. Laugh and then hang up. Boy the crap these doctors get away is something else.