Surgery tuesday

I have surgery Tuesday morinng. I did not think I was stressed . But last night all I heard in my head when I should be sleeping was Tim McGraw's song "If you read this I am already Gone" a dead soliders song. Reading through all the posts really makes me know that there is hope at the end of the tunnel. It was an adventure to get to a surgery date. Now a new and even more exciting adventure begins. I do not have full family support. My husband is great. My parents just say "your going to do what you want anyway" That is about it. as for other famliy most do not know because they will really hit on my poor self-esteem as they always have. They will adjust only when they see the weight come off and stay off. But always with those few commnets of having to go to suggest extreme. I think they awlays have seen me as extreme. I would like to say Stubborn determine and focused on to my goals. Which I really do feel I have achieved and now the weight is the last one (Well my health is the last one).

Well, you knew how i felt....scared to death!!!   but the day of my surgery i woke up not to scared.... not of dying anyway....    i was excited...nervous......but not scared like i had been.    take some deep breaths....try and find something to concentrate on.....    today's your last day eating any sort of real food right?  so enjoy something....    Most likely your nerves will get the best of you and you won't end up enjoying it as much.....but try.  

make sure you have a nice robe....some easy slippers to just slip on..... and start praying...... i'm not deeply religious....but suddently i felt that some extra prayer wouldn't hurt me..... 

what time of day is your surgery?       Its going to be ok....i know me saying that doesn' t change the way you feel...but it will be ok.  There are wonderfully kind and passionate people who are not only concerned about your health, but also about your mental state waiting for you at the hospital....if your nervous, tell them.  they will give you something to calm you down.  you'll feel loved......

 

I understand about the family support.  My family was very leery...but, they are so behind me now.  I think most of it was worry.  You are going to have many anxious moments...I know I did...but, it is an excellent adventure to a healthier you...GOOD LUCK! Rosemary

Thanks Rosemary. Strange part is my monther thinks her words are supportive. Your right once I am over the hump and feeling better she will be my biggest fan. Surgery is at 11:15. I will try to let everyone know how I am doing Thursday night or Friday,

I can totally relate to the "lack of support" from family.  I had none and I am not married so felt very alone venturing into this journey.  But the negative comments don't stop there.  You will notice that as the weight begins to melt off of you, all of the sudden people will be in your face that you never noticed even knew you were alive before!!  And they will have all sorts of negative digs to stab at you (out of jealousy of course) because they want to believe that this surgery is not the answer and that you will fail at it just like so many other diets.  You have to put them out of your life for good.  Give yourself credit for the courage to embark on this life saving journey.  You have made the right decision and you will be back here before you know it giving other's the support and advice you did not get from your family.  Good luck to you and Congratulations for making the choice to live a healthier life.  It's only fear and it will be behind you soon.  You are in my prayers.

Yeah, Marie!  Don't beat yourself up for being stressed/scared.  Everyone does.  You will be absolutely fine.  And as for support, there are no better cheerleaders than the people you know from these boards!  We're all pulling for you and keeping you in prayer.  Looking forward to hearing good news from you soon!!! Maria     

Thank-you Lisa. Your right the support will get me through. The support groups at the office are great as well. Have you made a decsion about having it done? I know at the group last month you were undecided.

I have not made a final decision yet ... although I suspect I will go through with the surgery.  Deanne is in the process of checking w/ my ins. to see how long my approval is good for, etc.   And the ins. is asking for documentation as to why the procedure was started but not completed.  They also want documentation stating it is safe to proceed at this point (which it is).  So that's where we stand at this point.   Anyway, I'll be thinking of you and praying that you have peace of mind as you go in and that your recovery is quick and easy! Will look forward to hearing good news from you ... Maria

Thank you for your honesty. I know now after the surgery why you are pondering. I know you will do what is best for you. I know I will support you as I can. Give the insurance both then they have no doubt about either. My peace of mind is returning. At the hopsital I think it had me lose it for a while.  SO the great news itis done and I am happier for it today.