Blowing It?

Okay, so I have been wrestling with how to approach this for about 2 weeks now....I get the overwhelming feeling that I am totally blowing my chances for success...I have stalled once again and don't know what to do....I am at a loss....confused...wishing that I could attend a support group, I have no car and the last bus that comes out to where I live is at 6p.m., the only group in my area meets at 7/7:30....I have tried to talk to my mom about how I am feeling and she just doesn't seem to understand/care....I was in AGONY last week with a kidney stone(didn't know what it was at the time) and called begging for a ride to the emergency room, she couldn't take me because she was going to watch a volleyball game....I ended up calling an ambulance, I didn't know if something had gone wrong that was by-pass related or what was going on, just that I was in so much pain I thought I was going to pass out.  I just feel really alone and scared, I don't want to screw this up....I don't understand why I have reached another plateau, just frustrated and worried....sorry if I ranted...

You are not blowing this by any means.  Do you realize the enormous amount of weight that you have lost in such a small amount of time? You are doing wonderfully.  Plateaus are the story of most WLS er's lives here. Maybe you can just shake something up a little in your routine regarding eating or exercise. Change around the food items a little. If you think that maybe you are having more carbs or cheese and what not  than usual, then cut back some. ( I am going to do that too.) If you have been walking, step up the pace a little more. If you have not started walking then start now in baby steps. You will succeed...I just know it. I had the feeling waaaay before you decided on surgery. If you notice, most posters have their hardest stalls before their 100 lb. mark - almost like a tease I guess.  You are right on target. Please don't ever think that you are alone. That's a crummy feeling. You may write me personally whenever you want. I think that people here genuinely care on this board. Banish the negativity, kiddo. Fake it til you make it. Smile. You are great in my book. Luv Ya, Diane

  Thanks so much for being here Diane....

You are very welcome and I really mean it. Diane

Hey sweetie pie!  I've only lost 6 lbs in 2 1/2 months!!!!  You've done so darn good!!!  Please don't think you're failing!  I wish I was at 80 lbs!!!!  Sorry mom isn't more thoughtful.  I know how important it is.  Anytime you want to talk, call me!  You have my number.  It's a cingular #.  If ya need it again, let me know.

Love ya bunches!

It would be great to talk to you, my mom didn't give me back the paper with your # on it....

Hello, YOU ARE DOING FANTASTIC!!!!  4 MONTHS OUT AT 80 POUNDS AND just think you are almost 1/2 way to goal! Keep very active here ... since this is your only form of support. Also try to join in on your surgery month / year forum - where you can share and talk with people who had surgery when you did !!!  I'd log all of your food intake into www.fitday.com for a few days - you might be surprised at what you see - it may bring something to light. Maybe too many carbs - not enough protein ...etc second - i'd up your water and incorperate some form of exercise.  Sorry to hear that you are suffering from kidney stones ... what are they doing for that? hang in there  you are NOT alone  We are here for you. sending hugs, Britt

Thanks for your suggestions Britt...as for the kidney stones, I passed 3 of them before my appointment with the urologist.....OUCH!  At the emergency room I was given a shot in the butt for the pain and then a script for Tylenol with coedine, which has made me really constipated...the Urologist said that stones can be common for wls patients and that I should drink lemonade, grapefruit juice and lots and lots of water to prevent a reoccurance....I will start keeping a better food journal...thanks again! Noralynn

Ok, first off.........You are in my area.  What support group are you wanting to attend?  I will come and get you, take you there, and then take you home!

 Email me at [email protected].  I am in Baldwsinville, and I know that there are 2 night groups that I have attended in the area.  Write me, I can help you out.  You shouldn't be going through this alone :)

Can't wait to hear from you :)

Hi Molly,  I had my surgery at University Hospital in Syracuse, but I live like an hour and a half south of there, right outside of Ithaca, If I lived in Ithaca I would be able to attend the support group there, but when I moved back to NY from Tennessee I wanted a smaller school district because my oldest son is Autistic, so I am sort of out in the boonies...thank you for the offer and the support! Noralynn