Is it normal to be so scared??

Ok...I have a date with Dr Moon(Horseheads/Elmira,NY)for July 30.I have been waiting for this for at least three years(thats when I started wanting it).Well, now it is 13 days away and I am TERRIFIED! I am generally a positive person...I am well aware of negativity and the effects it has on your overall life! But I have thought about every bad scenario in the last few days...and second-guessed my decision to do this.I have been miserable to my husband because....well, I dont know why! I plague him with questions like "What will you do if I die?" "Are you prepared for me to die?" "Do you know what my wishes are if I die?" Im surprised he doesnt run when I come in the room. Is this all normal?Am I losing my mind?Is God telling me I shouldnt have the surgery?HELP....PLEASE!

Hello hun, OK first take a DEEP breath!!!!  Ok now know that what you are feeling is so very normal and if you were not feeling anything then I would think you are not facing this major surgery. I for one totally understand as I canceled me first consult the day before my date because I was so scared on going. I took some time and rescheduled once I was more ready! Not saying I was not scared the 2nd time but it was not as bad as it was the first.  I have a consult for PS on Sept 6th and I am already nervous about that one as well. I know for me that is just normal I guess.... I wish you the best hun and only you know if you are ready! As my hubby says it is only a consult and they are not going to be doing surgery that day so chill, well easier for him to say that.

Oops...I guess I should have mentioned....July 30 with Dr Moon is my Surgery Date!!!! I was very calm, optimistic and excited through everything else...sorry I didnt clarify that in the original post

My surgery with Dr. Moon is one week after yours.  I have been having lots of morbid thoughts too, but I'm not scared.  I have accepted that "whatever will be will be" and I choose to believe that everything is going to be great.  I imagine the the night before and the day of I'm going to be terrified, but I'm going through with it.   You're going to be fine too.  When you get home from the hospital, send me a message and tell me what I have to look forward to, and how I shouldn't be worried because you came through with flying colors.  Then when I get home I'll send you a message telling you you were right and weren't we silly to be scared? 

OH that is your surgery date!!!  CONGRATS then hun.....YEAH! You will do fine and yes that is normal to be nervous, I wanted to run out after I was already in the bed but you just start to think of all the great changes that will come out of this surgery! Congrats again hun!

Don't worry...its perfectly normal to be scared.  I was very sure of my decision, but I was just petrified.  I was lucky...I had a good result and am very happy with my progress...Good Luck. Rosemary

Normal feelings you are experiencing. I had Lap RNY 5/29/07. I was a mess of nerves & second guessing my decision. Now 7 weeks out 33lbs lighter, I have absolutely zero regrets!!  Sending you postieve energy from Southwestern New York

Thanks for all the encouraging words!You guys are great....in some ways it seems like it will never get here and in others, it is coming so fast! I just cant wait for the surgery to be over and my new life to begin...I am nervous though about the afterward-it seems there is so much to remember in the way of what you have to have and what you can/can't have.I hope I get it all right.My goal is to get it all right and change my entire lifestyle so my family can benefit from it.My mom is morbidly obese with many,many health problems and I have two little girls(8 & 6) that I dont want to pick up bad habits.This surgery is going to be a turning point for not only myself, but my husband and children as well! Thanks again all for the support!

Hey there fellow WATERTOWNIAN!!!!! It is very normal to be nervous/scared/concerned (add any negative emotion here)...  The night before I had my surgery I emailed a bunch of people telling them how much I was honored to be their friend and how much they had meant to me etc.....  sounds a little silly right now but my feelings were very real at that time....  I am 8 months out and it is the best thing that i've done.   I missed the support group meeting tonight (rats) but there is one in watertown at the samaritan keep home every 3rd wednesday of the month...   Take lots of deep breaths... and give me a shout at any time.. Jenny

((((HUGS)))  Oeace and more peace! You are so normal.  I think we all have had those thoughts.  It is so NORMAL.    You are going to do so well babe.  Just take it day after day.  Remind yourself how worth this you are.  Think of the GREAT and GOOD things too.  Do not focus on all that negative.  You can do it sweets