Need to vent!

Once I got insurance approval, I did tell people at my job that I was having WLS.  At some point after the surgery, I was eating a cookie (I don't dump) and one of my co-workers asked me "are you allowed to have that?"  I looked at her like she had two heads.  I also told her not to ask me a question like that, there was no reason for her to be my food guardian.  As far as when people ask you how you did it, it's not a lie to say, I cut back on my portions and started exercising more.  If someone compliments you and it's not coming from a nosy place, accept the compliment with a thank you and talk about something else.  You might even want to preplan a topic that you can change the convsation to in a heartbeat so you won't be caught feeling flustered - "so did you watch the Yankees last night?" "is it supposed to rain today?" something along those lines.  If you want you can say, especially if the same person questions you repeatedly, oh, we've talked about this before, there's nothing new about it, and change the conversation around and ask her something about her...people sometimes like to talk about themselves. No matter how you handle it, don't let it get you angry.  You've done a great job and no one can take that away from you. Take care, Sue

I hate food police which is one of the reasons I hate discussing diet or weight loss issues with small minded people.  I just want to get another job and start over somewhere so that my weight loss is not the topic of conversation because no one will even know how big I had become before.  It's like they are waiting for me to gain the weight back so they can say "see it didn't work" so they can feel better about their own lack of discipline.  I feel better after coming back from such a beautiful weekend but definitely plan to be more direct about telling people that they've inquired enough and that I don't wish to discuss it further.  I expect that Miss Fran will inquire again on my next run in with her and I'm going to be better prepared with my remarks for her.  If all else feels I will just have to tell her that its none of her business and I wish she would stop the inquistions and keep her jealousy in check. 

Trish~ I know how you feel. I have only told very few people that I had surgery. Not that I am embarassed it is just that I don't want the comments. I was approached by my neighbor (who does not know) and asked how much weight I lost that I look good. I told her how much. She goes "How are you doing it?" I go "Eating less and excersing more"- technically I am not lying at all- I do eat less and I do exercise she just does not know that my stomach is now the size of an egg!! What I do is no one's business unless I want you to know. But someone always has to put their foot in their mouth she goes " Wow! that is great don't you feel good that you are doing it all on your own and not like some people who had to get weight loss surgery!" I said "But weight  loss surgery works and there is nothing wrong with that."  I just let her comments roll off by back- I laughed at her on the inside actually thinking  "If you only knew who you said that to!!!" People are going to have comments no matter what you do in life. If you feel good and you are happy then do not worry about other people!!   Tara

People are very insensitive about their opinions and comments.   I didn't like being told that I was doing great because I was "doing it on your own".  As soon as she said that I knew she was small minded about weight loss and knows nothing about the surgery process.  Everyone thinks that this is the "easy way out" and these people are so jealous and want us to fail so they can feel better about not having chosen our drastic decision to change our lives permanently.  They want this wls to be another fad, another failed method that they can be happy they didn't take.  I too feel I am not lying when I say the simple truth, eating less moving move, no secret.  But people don't want accept simple answers.  They want to know exactly WHAT you are eating so they can be your food cop when they see you eating something outside of their dietary expectations for you.  I'm just fed up and plan to start telling people to mind their own business or giving out the number for Weigh****chers or LA Weight Loss.  Maybe they will shut up then.  This too shall pass....hopefully sooner than later because its getting on my nerves. 

I told everyone I had WLS one by one.  They all seem to give me the thumbs up.  Now people are telling that I'm TOO SKINNY!.  Not to lose anymore weight.  Go figure.  The next time someone asks you if you had WLS and you choose not to tell them I would politely say "No I did not and even if I did would it matter?"  or " NO, I made a permanent lifestyle change."

I've tried the simple short answers but they don't seem to suffice.  The next time I see them AGAIN I am repeatedly asked the SAME inquisition....what's up?  WHAT are you doing? Only this time when she didn't hear what she wanted to , she blatantly asked me if I had that stomach surgery!!!  I was appalled at the inquisition and told her so.... I'm getting annoyed because its the SAME people and the SAME question and I keep giving the same answer that they don't seem to want to accept.  I just don't get WHAT they want to HEAR from me.  Quite frankly, its none of their business and I expect that THAT is exactly what I have to say next.  Because I'm out of the KISS (keep it simple) remarks.