Finally Hit Me!!

I want to start of by expressing, I am not trying to offend anyone. I have been reading posts about people crying and being upset by upcoming surgeries for various reasons. I thought to myself, it's odd I don't feel this way. I just have been so excited and anxious for the day to come. I know everyone reacts to things differently. Well............it finally fit me. I have been very weepy this morning. I received an email from OH and it said something to the effect of , only 5 more days to go!! Yup, you guessed it, reality came down crashing hard around me. I do not have the strong support of my family I would like. Matter of fact, my hubby may not even take me to the hospital, it will probably be my sister. I kept telling myself it didn't matter, but I guess it mattered more than I thought. Well, I feel better now getting that out, Thanks!!!!!!!!! Good Luck to all Mayers!!! God Bless, ~~Betsy

Betsy it's okay love...everyone feels it. I felt it right as I kiss my husband before they took me in. I just closed myy eyes and peaced out and told me self no way no how....I made it this far for a reason. YOU ARE NORMAL!!! You are about to become a new woman!!!!

Oh Betsy! Of course in the ideal world, it would be great to have family support. If this is not the case for you, we will be here for you. You will be going through a roller coaster of emotions before, during and after. This is NORMAL, NORMAL and NORMAL. It is such a life changing event. If this is about being sad that hubby might not drive you the morning of the surgery - I can totally understand that too. I think that he'll cave in and drive. He's just being thick headed. When all is said and done, he'll see how much happier you are with yourself. Contact me whenever you like, if for nothing else just to vent. Take Care~~ Diane

Betsy: It hits everyone different.....BUT the most important piece is that you are at Peace with "your" decision. Everything else will fall in place. You'll be surprised the support that will come your way, when you least expect. Know that you have the "unconditional support" of all of your friends here at OH. May you have a smooth trip to the "loser's bench" We are waiting for you. Lots of Hugs Peggy

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Hi Betsy ... You're not alone when you said that you didnt feel scared or on an emotional rollercoaster before you got the good luck letter ... from the time I saw my doctor until the day of the surgery itself ... I didnt feel a tinge of fear or sadness. Even when I found out that my friends (support group) who were supposed to be with me on the day of my surgery couldnt be with me because my friend had an emergency surgery days before, I was still okay. I was alone ... by myself ... on surgery day. I took a cab to the hospital, checked myself in ... and then had that life altering little band on my tummy a few hours later. Yet still, I didnt feel sorry for myself or scared ... or felt alone ... really ... all I could feel was just excitement and joy. I didnt think I was weird ... I didnt really think much except for the fact that this was my decision, my life and my journey. I'm sorry your hubby sees or feels things differently from you but you have someone else who loves you very much who'll be with you. Again, I know it may sound like "just" words but you really ARENT ALONE. We're here and we are your support group too. You can email me ANYTIME directly if you want to ... hugs !!!

OMG Betsy! I went tanning before work today. Now, I don't always wear much make-up to work, but knew I had meetings in Syracuse this afternoon so, put some on. Well about 15 minutes through my 20 minute tanning session, I began to sob! I was having a darn meltdown over my surgery coming so quickly. I was scolding myself for 1) messin up the darn make-up (hehehe ) and 2) letting myself get so out of control with my eating that I had to get to the point of having surgery. Ug. I don't have a lot of support from the family, actually, the situation is ignored! If I bring it up, the subject is changed. I'm sorry to hear that you don't have the support you deserve! I'm very proud that you're taking care of yourself. Rest assured, that regardless of the support outside this monitor, you have so many of us who love and respect you, never be afraid to come here to vent!

Hi Betsy,I had all the emotions as well.I had second thoughts and third thoughts up to the day before.This was the first surgery I have ever had.The morning came for surgery and it went so uneventful.It was over in a snap and I went home a day and a half later.I don't regret doing this at all.I'm down 96 lbs and off most my meds.I get compliments daily and it feels GREAT.I wish you well,you will do fine, Bob

I want to thank all of you for all your kinds words, thoughts and prayers. My OH "Family" is the best!!!!!!!!!! Thanks, ~~Betsy

~BETSY~ Hello. I just wanted to share some of the most helpful thoughts on this journey of living more fully for myself: ~to have NO expectatations~ ~to accept & thrive in the moment~ ~to understand there is no *normal* only typical on a wide spectrum of outcomes~ ~to see opportunities and challenges instead of difficulties~ ~to ask for what I need while being gentle, kind and loving to myself is IMPERATIVE not selfish or optional~ ~to let go of my fear, shame, guilt & need to control and instead trust, have faith & hope that I am perfect just the way that I am at this moment and all my needs are being met with abundance~ You are right where you should be, experiencing all you should at this moment, this is RIGhaT for you, it is YOUR individual journey and process, trust in it, ebrace it and we are always here for you, support is so important not only do you DESERVE it, I believe it assists us grow and succeed. Be well on your journey, feel your feelings fully! HUGS~ JAMIE