Reaching my attention through the computer

My sister is upset because I spend most of my time on the computer.We be having a conversion while i'm on the computer and I don't respond to her or answer her back.She told me that she is going to post to get my attention or a response. Now thats funny.

Claire: Hi! I know I enjoy the computer and spend A LOT of time on it, partially because all I have is dial-up (SLOW!) as no cable or DSL in my RURAL area YET! : -( But I also know I use it to avoid and isolate...it too can be an escape/addiction. I am not saying this is you but be aware it is a possibility. In the personal self emotional growth work I am doing now at 4 yrs out I have discovered in my perfectionistic codependent ways I give give give at a cost to myself. I am learning about self love and balance. Consider perhaps asking your sister something like this. "I can see you are upset, can we talk about what you are FEELING", I am a firm believer in attacking ISSUES not people (or at least I make the effort to), see sometimes all people want is to be HEARD and validated. Validate your sister is upset, and then get underneath that, is she angry, sad, lonely? You decide what to do in response if you care abs out her maybe just listening will help U 2, or maybe compromising. Hopefully she can hear you as well! HUGS~ Take Care, Jamie Lap RNY 10/9/02 Dr. Singh 320/163 5'9'' (lost 45# before surgery) Plastics 6/9/04 & 11/11/2005 Dr. King http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/profile.php?N=c1132518510 "Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections!"