I Need A Reality Kick In The Butt.............

HI I HAD LAPBAND SURGERY ON 11/21/05 AND TO DATE HAVE LOST 110LBS WITH NO FILLS. I AM A TO THE BOOK BANDSTERS NEVER CHEAT AND ALWAYS FOLLOW DRS. ORDERS TO THE T. THATS THE WAY I AM. BUT FOR THE PAST WEEK I CANT BELIEVE THE APPETITE I HAVE AND WHAT I HAVE CONSUMED. IVE EATEN MORE IN THESE PAST DAYS THEN I HAVE BEFORE SURGERY. THE PORPORTIONS, THE CRAVINGS ETC ARE UNBEARABLE. I HAVE NERVE TO EVEN THINK ABOUT EATING ALL THE WRONG FOODS WHEN I HAVE SO MUCH MORE WEIGHT TO LOSE. I LOST OVER 100lbs AND STILL SEVERLY OBESE. I GOT NERVE EATING ANYTHING OUT OF THE WAY. IVE NEVER GOT A FILL AND I FEEL LIKE I HAVE NO RESTRICTION LIKE THE BAND WAS NEVER EVEN PUT IN. I AM GOING TO SEE MY SURGEON ON FRIDAY. MAYBE I NEED A FILL... I DONT KNOW. IM TRYING SO HARD NOW NOT TO GIVE INTO ALL OF THIS. THANKS FOR READING.. JUST NEEDED TO VENT.... BUT SOMEBODY SHOULD REALLY GIVE ME A KICK IN THE BUTT AND SET ME STRAIGHT....DONNA

Donna Q: Hi! Life has challenges and perhaps right now you are being challenged. It is possible you have a complication w/ the band!? Only having a surgeon check/run tests will you know. It is not uncommon for bands (10-30%) to have complications early or late postop such as: Band Slippage or migration w/ pouch dilation Band erosion/perforation of stomach Port failure/flipping/leaking/infection Band leakage/failure/rejection needing replacement So get the physical ruled out first ok! I bet it is time for a fill! Remember this is a jurney of a million miles and getting the band is the first step. There is no perfection only progress, perhaps you are attempting tobe perfect which can set us up for that inner child to sabotage (think deprivation always leads to a binge!) Look at all you are doing not not doing! Look how far you have come, acknowledge teh chalenges you have had and succeeded at, look at thetemendous effort needed for life, it doesn't get easier, acceptance of the lifelong effort we have to give for health can lower the rebellion (case of the screw its we can get!) One undo wont undo the year ok! Sometimes what u eat set up the trigger/cravings. Look to getting back to your lifstyle, one step at a time (water, protein, exercise etc).... Be kind, gentle and loving to self, allow for helathy choices to gyide yoou 90% of the time, it is fine 10% to be not so 'perfect!' Remember perfectionism focuses on the flaws! HUGS PLEASE keep us informed! No butt kicking allowed only love and acceptance! Allow the feelings to come and pass, release the shame and guilt ok! Take Care, Jamie Lap RNY 10/9/02 Dr. Singh 320/163 5'9'' (lost 45# before surgery) Plastics 6/9/04 & 11/11/2005 Dr. King http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/profile.php?N=c1132518510 "Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections!"

HEY DONNA! (((HUG)) perhaps its time to schedule a fill! TO help !!! CONGRATS on the 110 lbs gone! glad you vented thats the best fix for such matters and why this board is here. NOW You vented now its time to focus hard. RID the cravings! IT doesnt take much for them to kick in and take over. good luck

Donna, First off congrats on your 110 lbs loss.... That is just awesome... Now I think Jamie said it better then I could, call your Dr and find out if a fill is something you need to get. Also that is so true what Jamie said about the eating good 90% of the time. I was one that used to live ALL or NOTHING but I am in the middle of learning other right now, so hard to do though! We are only human and have to allow for that 10%!!!! You came to the right place to vent hun, you are around friends here! Now take a deep breath and give yourself permission to forget and move forward! Keep us posted hun.. Debra P

Hi Donna Just had lap band less than 1 week ago so I am no expert like you but I guess there are always times that we need to eat more than others. Maybe this is because of the change in season and weather or it's hormonal. I am feeling hungrier than I thought I would be and it's taking a lot of broth and jello to fill me up. My expectations were that I wouldn't want to eat anything. Staying home isn't helping either so I have been doing a lot of walking.. I will see my Doctor on Wednesday and ask him about this. My fear is going through what you are experiencing now. I can't afford to eat anymore than I ate before the surgery. You did absolutely fantatstic and I hope I can do the same. Let me know what the doctor advises and meantime go easy on yourself Shelly

I new all you wonderful people would put my head in gear. Thank you soo much for all ur support. This board is awesome and I wouldnt be able to be so successful so far if it wasnt for all the wonderful people here who support eachother and share all their experiences. Im going to surgeon Friday will let u know how I did. Thanks again, donna